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Starstuff · Kenneth Cole

"I'd better be invited"

beep · Nine West

I would invite all or none, especially b/c you have such a small department. The "I'd better be invited" is so rude. Ugh. I think a remark like that does not deserve any response. I would just smile vaguely and walk away/change the subject.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

Just remember when you are thinking of this that you will probably have to invite them all and when you invite them you have to plan for them each to bring their husband/wife/date and possibly kids if they have any young ones. So while you might be thinking its only 5 more people that 5 could easily be 10-15 extra people and another hundred dollars or so at the reception.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

A girl that I work with heard this a lot before her wedding. She was in a pretty weird position too because she is the Corporate HR Manager so she is on a very friendly basis with most of the company. When people would say this to her she just politely said, "Actually Jon and I decided that we would like to keep the wedding fairly small so we are only inviting people from our departments to the wedding." No one was offended at all. She invited a couple of other people from outside our dept. too, but they were friends outside of work so she felt no need to explain that to anyone.

I also disagree with lsubatgirl about the added guests. If you do not invite their children they should not be bringing them. That is just bad manners and etiquette. Most people know better, but if they don't just make it abundantly clear that the people that are named on the invitation are the only ones invited.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

I guess what I'm seeing lately is that people just don't care anymore and they do as they please and don't care about what others think. I'm not saying that they would bring kids but now a days around my neck of the woods people are that rude and thoughtless to bring uninvited kids to a wedding because they wouldn't want to be bothered with getting a babysitter so I was just throwing that idea out just in case it hadn't been thought of.

Elle · Hermes

I agree with LSU that the extra guest may become an issue - If these people are so lacking in etiquette to invite themselves to your wedding, I'm sure they would have no problem bringing their children! Many people who don't attend large functions/weddings on a semi-regular basis are completely unaware of both the 'etiquette' and the extra cost that they would cause you by bringing extra guests. I think you would be best off explaining that you have limited facilities and are only able to invite those in your own department.

e_doli · Dooney & Bourke

so you are planning on inviting your dept. plus the 2 other people who are friends outside of work? if this is the case, i agree with lmonet that you should just tell the incredibly rude guy that you are only inviting those from your department.

that kind of thing is so infuriating.

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

I hate when ppl say that! It is my biggest pet peeve about planning the wedding.. I have a rule.. If you ask me this, even if you are already on my guest list.. I will you take off immediately.. I have no tolerance for rude ppl!