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Tara


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I need some advice!!!


My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 4 years, and living together for over 1 year.  We have NEVER spent the X-Mas Holiday together:(  Even though my boyfriend is Jewish, he typically flies home every year during X-Mas b/c he has the time off from work.  Last year was the first X-Mas w/out my grandmother, so it was a very trying time for me and my mom.  I was very upset that my boyfriend did not come home with me that year.


So, he has excitedly agreed to come home with me for X-Mas this year and we already bought the flights.  However, his mother is giving him a really really hard time.  She has always been kinda mean to me....and she says she is personally offended that my b/f is not coming home for X-Mas, a holiday they don't celebrate.


Oh, and we JUST flew to see my b/f's mom in Nov!  Just FYI we live on the westcoast and both our parents are east coast based (PA and FL)...so flying to both is out of the question.


Am I being selfish in wanting my b/f to spend X-Mas with my family and not his?



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lsubatgirl


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If he wanted to go with you then you aren't being selfish about the situation especially if you just saw his mom in november. 


PS- this isn't the same tara from fh with butthead is it?  It just doesn't sound like you if it is.



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Tara


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no different Tara

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Elle


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It sounds like his mom is just pulling the 'hurt mom' act.  You've never spent a Christmas together, so this gets to be your year!  Besides, how can she justify needing him home for a holiday they don't even celebrate?

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Tara


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Thank you both so much!  I honestly feel better.  All my friends kept telling me that I wasn't being selfish, but I had to hear it from someone else!


Btw, I am SO excited to spend X-Mas with my man!  YAY!



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lsubatgirl


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Oh ok.  I'm use to her posts along the same lines but I think she's in nc maybe.  Anyways I don't feel bad. You don't have any reason to feel selfish especially if he made the choice and you didn't.

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Marc Jacobs

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You are not being selfish at all! I think the only one being selfish is your bf's mom... but I feel like the way she's acting is normal. I just say stick it out! You guys seem pretty serious and you were probably bound to run into this problem sooner or later.

Anyway, don't let her get you down. I hope that you, your bf, and your family have a great Xmas! :)

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i don't think you're being selfish either. hopefully your bf will be able to make his mom understand that she needs to cut the apron strings and let him spend his vacation time with you.


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Originally posted by: lsubatgirl
"If he wanted to go with you then you aren't being selfish about the situation especially if you just saw his mom in november. 
PS- this isn't the same tara from fh with butthead is it?  It just doesn't sound like you if it is."


lsu, i thought it was the same tara too. i was thinking "oh no, not the butthead's mom again!" but yeah, that tara is in nc, not ca.

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"i don't think you're being selfish either. hopefully your bf will be able to make his mom understand that she needs to cut the apron strings and let him spend his vacation time with you. quote: Originally posted by: lsubatgirl"If he wanted to go with you then you aren't being selfish about the situation especially if you just saw his mom in november.  PS- this isn't the same tara from fh with butthead is it?  It just doesn't sound like you if it is." lsu, i thought it was the same tara too. i was thinking "oh no, not the butthead's mom again!" but yeah, that tara is in nc, not ca."
LOL!!!  I was thinking it was butthead's mom again too!!!!  

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