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nyc_shopgirl


Dooney & Bourke

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Okay I am overly stressed which is making me way overly emotional. So I am probably being irrational. So if I am being a brat with this situation tell me so.


My good friend of over 20 years and I made plans for Brunch well she got the dates mixed up and thought it was for Sunday but it was for Saturday. I was only in NYC this past weekend on Saturday and she had already made plans with some other people that she sees all the time. She lives in NYC, I live nearby but only come in on weekends and have not seen her since October because she was out of town then I was.


I guess I am jsut perturbed A. She did not read my email closely about dates even though i confirmed multiple times on it. B. She did not try to reschedule or switch the times with the people  or even attempt to try to do so and explain to the other people since she has not seen me in a long time and I am not in town that often C. It does not really phase her that I really was looking forward to seeing her and now we probably won't get together till January at the earliest.  I am feeling so hurt right now by her lack of actions I know if the tables were turned that I would make sure to fit her in even including her in an activity I planned with someone else because seeing her is important to me. I already asked her to be a bridesmaid in my wedding and I do not want to regret that decision but actions do speak louder than words right?


So...


1. Am I just overly stressed and being a brat about this?


2. If no should I tell her she really hurt me and her lack of effort in our friendship sort of concerns me.


3. Do nothing and let it go making a mountain out of a mole hill?


 



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lsubatgirl


Gucci

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Is this the first time something like this has happened?  If so then I think your stress levels have you overreacting and give it a few days and blow it off.  If it isn't then I might mention to her how much it meant to see her and how you won't see her again until <insert date here> which will be <insert months here> months from when you saw her last.



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nyc_shopgirl


Dooney & Bourke

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I am going to just wait it out a bit. I have yet to return her email and will just wait till i can calm down.

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Elle


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It sounds like you are just a more thoughtful, detail-oriented person than she is.  As long as she is not a repeat offender, give yourself a few days to get over it and then respond to her email.  It wouldn't hurt to put something in your email, however, about how you were really disappointed that you couldn't see each other.

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Ally S


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I would let her know how disappointed you were that she got the dates wrong and gently remind her that she did confirm the date with you. Then I would mention that you probably won't be getting together again till long after the holidays.


If anything it will make you feel better but choose your words careful. Some of what you are feeling may be brought on by the stress of this time of the year.



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