Okay, a little background first- I work in an in-house ad agency where I'm a writer. A large part of my job is working with the graphic designer to come up with creative concepts for ads and other marketing material. This is right in my job description. I'm also in grad school for design and have an marketing background. I've been at this job for about 9 months and have received lots of good feedback from my projects.
So, a few months, the graphic designer started to get extremely territorial of jobs that we are both assigned to. He has intentionally left me out of meetings, told me that I'm not supposed to do anything but write and I have no business trying work on concepts because that's his job. He's also started acting like my boss and tries to tell me what to do. And he's very condescending. So, after we had some words about him leaving me out of big project and refusing to give me information about it saying that I "wasn't needed," I went to our boss (the Creative Director) for clarification on my job description. My boss told me that I was right in my interpretation of my job description and that he would speak to the designer and give him a copy of my job description so there wouldn't be any more confusion. Fine. Great.
Fast forward to last week, when the graphic designer decided to work on ad concepts without me, then came to me and told me that I needed to write copy for his concepts. I told him that I had some concepts to discuss, but he refused and acted like my boss by telling me that I needed to work on his concepts. So, again, I went to our boss, who schedule a meeting for the ads we're currently working on.
That meeting was today and I cannot believe what happened. I'm absolutely stunned. The graphic designer started showing all of these concepts that I had never seen (with mediocre headlines.) He also mentioned that he had a meeting with marketing about the product got some more info about what they wanted for the ad. I told him that it would have been nice if he had included me in that meeting since I'm on the project, too, and needed to work on concepts. Then, he said, "You're not allowed to work on concepts. You just write about mine." And I told him that wasn't true and that my job description states that I'm to work on creative concepts. Then, he actually said, "I don't believe you. Why don't you go get your job description and prove it." (Remember, our boss was there, too.) I actually keep a copy of my job description in my desk, so I went and got it and "proved it" to him. My boss backed me up and told him that wherever he got his information, it wasn't correct.
Then, (and this is the really unbelievable part), the graphic designer started to berate me and tell me that I'm not talented, I'm unqualified, worthless at creative meetings and that he knows so much more than me (we're the same age- I have a BA and am in grad school, he has an Associate's and is working on BA - but likes to tell people he's working on his Master's - and he only has about 3 more years of experience than I have and not as much education.) He even went so far as to demand to see my porfolio from previous jobs so that I could prove to him that I was qualified for my job. WHAT?!!!!!! He also belittled me because my last marketing job was in a less-than glamorous industry (hvac) and indicated that I couldn't possibly be qualified with that kind of work experience. Then (no, he still wasn't done and our boss was still there), he tried to accuse me of the things that he was doing (leaving me out of meetings, exclusion from projects.) Fortunately, his arguments were about as watertight as a sinking ship, so he kind of looked like an idiot. Then he actually tried to get up and leave, saying that he "was done with this." Our boss spoke up and told him to sit back down.
From there, our boss pretty much corrected all of the designer's statements and told him that we need to work together and that's why I was hired. Long story short, our boss is working to correct the issue, so hopefully, things will improve.
But, still, I cannot believe the things the designer said to me. Not once did I degrade him or tell him that he wasn't qualified. My complaints were legitimate and backed by examples. He was just trying to say as many bad things about me as possible, even though they weren't true.
if it were me i'd have a really hard time working with that person after all of that was said. i hope things improve for you.
I second this. That is so unprofessional and makes himself look so bad. Not that it matters, but were you two friendly ever on a personal level? Or is he kind of a jerk all around?
if it were me i'd have a really hard time working with that person after all of that was said. i hope things improve for you.
I second this. That is so unprofessional and makes himself look so bad. Not that it matters, but were you two friendly ever on a personal level? Or is he kind of a jerk all around?
We actually were friends when I first started working there and got along pretty well until he started the prima donna act a few months ago.Now I don't trust him any further than I can throw him.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry! I would have been completely stunned!
Honestly (and I'm not just saying this because you're supposed to say things like this to your friends ) I think you're probably blowing him out of the water and he senses that. I don't know how talented he is, or you are, but if he was actually good about working for you a while, it sounds like he's becoming insecure. Maybe he's jealous of your talents, or your ideas, or *whatever* and is just sabotaging your projects because he feels inferior for whatever reason.
In any case, it is great that your boss sees through this and is basically on your side. If anything, this guy is going to be kicked out soon enough. If someone at my company started ignoring the people they're supposed to work with and actually tried to walk out of a meeting with my boss, he'd rip them a new one!
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It seems to me like he feels extremely threatened by you.
I feel as though your boss tells you one thing and tells him another. I think your boss should be taking a more active role in this situation. He is controlling you and has no right to question your qualifications, what are the behavioral corrective actions that your boss took as a result of this????
I bet none.
Your boss is the ringleader in this confusion by NOT being more of a leader in setting him straight.
Honestly, this sounds like one of those situations where you're co-worker thinkes he's in the right and when he decided to voice his opinions, he has no idea the more he talks the crazier he looks. Thankfully, what he did was basically prove to your boss that he's a nut job and not professional. You handled it perfectly and I LOVE that your boss told him to shut up and sit down. It sounds like he's just really intimitdated. And if he's handling it this way, there's no way your boss will trust him with more responsibility or leadership.
The shame of this is that you are a team, and this guy is poison. I hope the company can start looking for a replacement, and QUICK. How are you going to support each other when he's acting like such an arse?
In my agency job, the designer(s) and I worked really well together because we needed each other...I'm still friendly with some of these coworkers a decade later.