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Alegria · Kate Spade

Loneliness

pollyjean23 · Marc Jacobs

Oh, Alegria, I am sorry you're feeling lonely. It can be difficult to feel optimistic when the girlfriends and family connections just don't cut it. {{hugs}} I am glad you can feel like you can talk to us about it though. I can't speak for anyone else, but I have had the same feelings and it bites. It will go away; and there are some things you can do to get through those feelings faster.

I hope you can try to take care of yourself by making being on your own the best it can be. Making subtle changes at home (like re-decorating a room or moving things around) can help. I would cook really nice dinners for myself, take a long, hot bath or shower, do some spa treatments (or go get some done), start an art or craft project, look at classes for the sole purpose of finding something fun and interesting to take, and anything else I could think of that would help me feel comfortable and more occupied. The hardest part is getting started. But, once you do, it can help.

Could it be time for my famous Lita Ford cure? (search stylethread posts for it)

Mandy · Kate Spade

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. Maybe if you sign up for match or something like that you could at least get a flirty outlet to email guys even if you never go out with any of them.

(((hugs)))

atlgirl · Gucci

Alegria wrote:

It's very frustrating to think that I may never meet a male friend again. Really, everyone that I am around is either married a woman or both.

Awww...you will! It just takes time and patience. I agree with Pollyjean's suggestions. Make this time all about *you* (and your kids, of course) and take good care of yourself. Remember that living well is the best revenge (not saying that you are looking for revenge, just that if you pamper yourself a bit you'll feel better).

You've made a good choice for you and your children and someone *will* come along when the time is right. Maybe go to the bookstore (if you're a big reader) and flirt with some cute guy. Or make eye contact at your local coffee shop, grocery store, deli. You don't have to be ready for a full-on relationship to have your body language indicate that you're open to friendship / companionship. You never know what might happen, or when!

Teresa · Kate Spade

okay, this might fit, it might not, my friend gave it to me when i was really lonely... Hang in there! (hug)

"It is rewarding to find someone you like,but it is essential to like yourself. It is quickening to reccognize someone is a good and decent human being, but it is indispensable to view yourself as acceptable. It is a delight to discover people who are worthy of respect and admiration and love, but it is vital to believe yourself deserving of these things.

For you cannot live in someone else. You cannot find yourself in someone else Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will never leave or lose." By Jo Coudert, American Writer

XtinaStyles · Marc Jacobs

I know this may sound stupid but do you have a pet? I find that my dog is my best companion when friends/family don't cut it.

I understand missing a male companion, but there really isn't much to do if you don't want a relationship/can't handle it. All you can do is hope to meet someone...

kenzie · Chanel

XtinaStyles wrote:

I know this may sound stupid but do you have a pet? I find that my dog is my best companion when friends/family don't cut it.

I understand missing a male companion, but there really isn't much to do if you don't want a relationship/can't handle it. All you can do is hope to meet someone...

Oh, I second the pet thing!! It's amazing how animals help when you're feeling crappy.

Suasoria · Chanel

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. It's temporary!

I really like Mandy's suggestion of harmless online flirting. It could be good practice for when you're ready to meet someone, and in the meantime, it might be a fun ego boost.