DH and I have had ups and downs in our income in the past 8 years. We never had a set agreement, as the amount to spend on a shopping trip usually depended on what we were making at the time.
If I want to spend $200-300 on myself all in one place, I talk to him about it first because if I just tell him afterwards...even if we had plenty of money in the bank, he will FREAK out and it's just not worth the trouble. I usually warn him weeks ahead of time, saying, "I need to buy shoes or I need to buy a coat this month." We'll agree on a price range and then I will just buy it whenever I want to.
It's hard to have a set agreement when our income fluxuates, but it is especially hard for me because my husband thinks EVERYTHING is overpriced anyway.
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"Go either very cheap or very expensive. It's the middle ground that is fashion nowhere." ~ Karl Lagerfeld
i'm not married, but the only way i'd personally feel comfortable is with a private account in addition to a joint one. That way I could just budget myself for my purchases. Unless I marry a somewhat stylish guy, I cant imagine trying to explain the cost of a lot of the things I buy...
Same here. I'm not married, but my some of my friends always ask me how much my things cost and why I would spend so much, and I hate having to explain my purchases.
-- Edited by wetbandit42 at 19:20, 2007-11-18
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