STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

monica · Kenneth Cole

where do you meet guys?

littlebean · Kate Spade

I think the best way is through a common interest -- group volunteer work, a hiking trip, sports activities, church, etc. Of course, there's always the internet, friends, school and work! -- but I think the ideal place is through a shared interest.

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

I second Littlebean, though it's easier said than done! I found that a lot of the things I was interested in were "girl things."

For example, I love doing craft night with my girlfriends. LoL. I spent a lot of time thinking about things I'm interested in doing where there would also be eligible young men. I ended up joining Team In Training to do a triathlon, not really thinking about the man factor, and I met someone! I would actually recommend Team In Training as an EXCELLENT way to meet people in general. I've ended up with a lot of amazing friends, not to mention a cute boyfriend.

lynnie · Chanel

Our neighborhood has a kickball league- I've met cute boys through that! Anything somewhat sporty is guaranteed to bring guys. But i'd say my tried and true is simply friends of friends- roommates of an aquaintance, etc. At least then they have someone to vouch for them!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

Through friends works for me but then I start grumbling about how I always meet the same kind of people and if I have to date one more lawyer, yada yada. But then I'll date a surfer and start wishing I had someone who I had more in common with. hmm

I really like the shared interest idea...but right now my biggest interest is interior design...and most of those guys aren't on my team if you know what I mean. wink

By the way, so sorry about the break-up, come vent whenever you need!

Kelly · Hermes

My cousin met her husband by sitting on the steps of a library, reading the newspaper, with the sports section sitting next to her. He walked up and asked if he could borrow it. That wasn't an accident - she had met several guys that way!

Suasoria · Chanel

Most people I know met their SOs through work, if they're past college or grad school age.

monica · Kenneth Cole

thanks ladies..
i think i'm going to look into team in training.. it sounds interesting...
i would rather meet people through friends but it seems like no one has anyone to hook me up with. going to have to start going out more..
suasoria - we actually met at work; my first job out of college and it didn't turn out the way i'd hoped.. so there's NO chance in hell i'd ever do that again. plus, i work in the fashion industry, so most of the men i work with aren't very interested in women :)

if anyone else has suggestions, i'm open to them! thanks again!! :)

sephorablue · Marc Jacobs

esquiress wrote:

I really like the shared interest idea...but right now my biggest interest is interior design...and most of those guys aren't on my team if you know what I mean.

Oh good god, tell me about it... today the (male) lead designer and I were talking about various things and I was marveling yet again over how compatible we are and how much we have in common. I actually said to him, "see, this is why you and I should be dating, instead of complaining to each other about men. If only it weren't for that whole issue of us both liking the Y chromosomes."

emery · BCBG

I know it is pretty goofy, but I met my current boyfriend on-line, I am a little young for a dating sight, and I live in a college town, so pickings were slim, but I found a good one anyway

wicked · Coach

I was the biggest skeptic about online dating, but I met my boyfriend on Craigslist and two of my good friends found their significant others on Match.com and singlesnet.com.

If you have the patience to sift through the riff raff I think it's worth it.

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

I just wanted to say - YAY for Team In Training! Even if you don't meet a guy, you'll meet so many amazing wonderful people. I can't say enough good things about the people I've met. Just a note though: the run (i.e. marathon and half marathon) team is almost ALL women. The men tend to gravitate towards the triathlon team, which is the team I did. Just to toot the triathlon horn, I've heard from people who've done both teams that the triathlon team is much more close-knit, friendly, outgoing, and just generally more fun!

One more thing - the men just don't get any hotter than the guys at triathlon events!!!! Tee hee

P.S. I thought of another thing to check out. It's called Hashing - it's a sort of running club with chapters literally all over the US and world. A number of my friends met people through it, and it's also just a lot of fun.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

It seems like all the cute straight guys play basketball together, so any gym or park that has basketball courts is a good bet.

And bars that have big tvs and serve wings are good for some types of guys. (Read the sports page to find out when there's a big game, and go and cheer for whatever team a cute guy is cheering for - but don't ask what's going on in the game. They hate that. Google the rules before you go).

Also if your school has a big sports team, there are usually alumni gatherings and associations, and, best for flirting, tailgates or bar nights.

Anyway, in general, most people go to work and then just out with friends, so you have to think of where the kind of guy you like would work, and then try to deduce where he and his buddies would go after work. Does that help?

But I hope you don't mind my saying this: I went through a really similar situation a few years ago, (it has a happy ending, though yay :) and I would be really, really careful about the guys you meet while you're relearning the dating scene. Take. No. Crap. No excuses whatsoever. And don't ever announce, "I'm not looking for anything serious right now..." A lot of guys hear this and think it's a free pass to act like a doink. Recovering takes a little time, and you have to be really careful of yourself until you're feeling confident again. Good luck!