STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

The new bf isn't going the first part of the week so I think you should still go and have fun with you friends.  When it comes time for the wedding just go and have fun.  This will give you an opportunity to meet some new people.  I doubt that your friends are going to ignore you.  Chances are since they are in a couple they are going to go out of their way to make sure you aren't uncomfortable, but I don't see them always asking if you are okay (then again I don't know your friends).  If its anything like my group of friends the girls always end up talking in a group and the guys have their own conversations.


atlgirl wrote:

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As far as the hotel room...if the extra guy throws the sleeping arrangements out of whack, he can take the floor (or tub, whatever). He's the latest invitee and you shouldn't have to give up your bed - I'm assuming you and M were going to be sharing a bed - just because she invited him along. It might be a little more uncomfortable because you don't know him like J's husband, but otherwise, you were already going to be sharing a room with one guy.

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I definitely agree with this.  I would mention to M that you aren't giving up your bed since techinically he was the last to join the party.  When my friends and my bf have all gone on vacation together I have slept in the bed with my bff instead of my bf because he can sleep on the floor and she shouldn't.  Plus I feel like that could be really awkward otherwise.

Anyway, basically, I'm saying go and have fun and I'm doubtful you will regret it!

jess wrote:

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Well I didnt mean literally asking if I'm okay, i meant it the way HeatherLynn said it-
"...are going to go out of their way to make sure you aren't uncomfortable."

So I guess i am being a baby? I'm just having flash backs of this one wedding I went to where they made everyone get up & slow dance & I didnt have a partner & was the only left at the table. Ok so maybe I'm traumatized. My friends are usually like that- guys partner off & talk- girls too-everyone dances with everyone- but these aren't our friends. As a foursome- we only know the couple getting married. I'm leaning more towards going, but mainly b/c I was really looking forward to this vacation. If I had known initially he was going, I prob. wouldn't have joined a couple's vacation.

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I think that them consciously making sure you aren't uncomfortable is a good thing.  I don't mean in the obvious you don't have a date kind of way, but more of a we are all friends and here to hang out (the five of you) versus two couples to hang out with a fifth wheel.  Does that make sense?

As far as guys talking with each other and the girls talking with each other I meant the five of you.  In my head I have it pictured that all of you are at a table and the two boys are sitting there talking to themselves and the three girls are having a conversation with each other. 

I just checked with one of my friends who went to a wedding solo with several couples.  She said she had a ton of fun.  All of our bfs danced with her (and not pitty dances it was to have fun) and all the girls danced in a group while the guys hit up the bar, etc. But, with that said, if you are going to go and be unhappy the entire time because you don't have a date then you are probably better staying at home so you aren't unhappy.  I just wanted to clarify on what I had said in the previous email.  Good luck with whatever you decide!