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jettie · Kate Spade

Wedding guest question

littlebean · Kate Spade

I would assume so.

jettie · Kate Spade

That is what I thought but I was hoping there was another way to interpret it....I really want to bring a date!

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

I think it means just you, no guest -- sorry!

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

I haven't been around lately but I wanted to respond since I had this happen last year with a good friend of mine. I had a friend do this to me last year because she wasn't sure if I was still dating my new boyfriend or his name. So basically since we were pretty good friends in college and just didn't live in the same town anymore I asked if I could bring him and she said it was no big deal. If you know the people well I'd ask. It could just be an oversight on their part or them tiptoeing around asking you directly since it can be a touchy subject with singles/couples.

Elle · Hermes

I'd doubt it's an oversight, to be honest. If they weren't sure if you're dating someone or didn't mind if you brought a guest, the envelope should be addressed to Ms. Jettie and Guest. We didn't include guests for our wedding because of space and money constraints (though everyone knew and were seated with multiple people they knew-we didn't strand anybody!), and felt like an ass when a couple people called about guests because either A) I say yes and am annoyed or B) I'd say no and risk upsetting the person I actually invited. Bad, bad situation.

When it comes to weddings, it would be rude to actually put 'No Guests' or 'No Children' on an invitation. Therefore, if no guests or children are specifically invited, I'd be willing to bet it's Not Okay. The only case in which a call to include a guest would be warranted IMO is if you have a fiance, partner, or husband that was left off the invitation.

-- Edited by Elle at 20:36, 2007-07-13