(thought I'd make you look w/that heared!) now - in a spin-off from ttara's post in the shopping thread... I started wonder how many girls really care about "G.O." that is - Guy's Opinions (in terms of what you wear).
I'm sure to some degree - we all care if our S.O. really hated our outfit or thought we looked absurd in 10" platforms or something like that. but in general, do you care?
I have never really cared what guys think of my outfit when they usually think it is too bright or too trendy. I'm not a huge risk taker - but I don't think poufy sleeves or bubble skirts are that weird either. My ex was very good at listening and learning about what I liked in fashion so he ended up loving most everything. I have gotten some weird looks from my midwest guy cousins for what I've worn, but seriously - what do they know? I really am not a fan of taking the BF's along for serious shopping as well.
Most guys I've dated have basically left me with the conclusion that I should be a better judge of what i wear and they'd prefer nothing at all.
However, I used to care what guys thought and so I dressed like a slut, thus attracting lots of attention and male-admirers. This was not so good...
Since I matured, no, I don't care what guys (or more specifically, my boyfriend) thinks of my clothes. I can dress pretty trendy at times and I know most guys just don't "get" trendy. For me, fashion is just a fun, artistic expression and I dress the way I want to regardless of how guys may interpret it.
I dont really care what guys think. I know some of the things I wear my brother thinks looks weird, but its just my brother so I dont give a hoot. I do take my bf's opinion into consideration when I'm shopping though. It's not like I wont get something I really like if he doesnt like it, but I like to ask him what he thinks. It makes me really happy when he likes what I'm wearing so I like to look nice for him.
No, I don't care. I'm happy that most times FH likes what I wear... but even when he calls my bermuda shorts "granny shorts" and capris "stupid pants" I still keep them in rotation!
However, I think my DH has exceptionally great taste and he knows what works on my body type. So, if he has an opinion, I'm inclined to listen to it. Sometimes if I can't decide what to wear, I'll ask him to pick an outfit for me. It's kinda fun. He can be catty like me, so we have a lot of laughs commenting on outfits when we are out and about.
<<Most guys I've dated have basically left me with the conclusion that I should be a better judge of what i wear and they'd prefer nothing at all>>
That is exactly my POV. I love DH to death, but most of the time I prefer shopping w/out him. He doesn't ever, ever *get* why I am particular about fit (esp. in the waist), why I "need to have so many things tailored", and thinks I am too conservative. I might err on the conservative side, but I also know (for the most part) what looks good on my body - after all, I've lived with it all my life. :) And what *I* feel good in, is what I will wear. Otherwise stuff will just sit in my closet and that doesn't do anybody any good.
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I definitely do care, maybe even more than I care about what women think.
I guess I just figure, guys are 50% of the population, an 50% of the people who will see me in any given outfit. So it's just as important to me that they think I look nice/pretty/etc. as it is that women think so. I think a big part of it is also that I tend towards classic shapes and silhouettes, so if a guy doesn't like it, it's probably because it's newer and he's used to it less, i.e. it's probably trendy and I want to rethink it. I also care more about how a garment looks on me than the brand or how trendy it is, and I think women's opinions can easily be swayed if I'm wearing a brand/style/color that they like, and it's place in current fashion, as opposed to whether it actually looks good on me.
I do care about what my boyfriend thinks, and I want him to think that I look nice, obviously. I probably care more about his opinion than any other individual, but I think we have different aesthetics when it comes to girl clothes, and I'm not going to comprimise. He likes shopping, so he wants to go with me or have me go with him a lot, but he always wants me to try things on that I think are too weird or just not my taste, and when I pick things out to try on, he's never overly impressed with what I've gotten. So that's kind of a bummer. I will take his opinion into consideration, but I won't buy something I don't feel comfortable in just because he likes it, and if it's something I love I won't keep myself from buying it.
If I'm on the lookout for a particular style of clothing, however, and I hear enough men say that they think it's goofy/weird, that will definitely keep me from buying it.
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I care only in the sense that I don't want my BF to be embarrassed because he looks like he's dating a 14 year old trendoid mall rat.
After that, I could care less about most things. I'll always dress apprpriately for the occasion and while admiration from guys is always apprecaited, it is certainly not required.
I care a bit about what my boyfriend thinks, but I try not to worry too much about what guys (or girls) think in general. My boyfriend has pretty good taste and so when we go shopping together if he says that something is GREAT or AWFUL, I factor it in, but ultimately I usually end up going with my gut. Very occasionally my boyfriend has suggested that what I'm wearing isn't appropriate for the occasion in terms of being too dressy or not dressy enough and I factor that in, too.
That would be a big NO for me. I dress for me. My husband loves what I wear becauese whatever it may be I wear it with confidence.
On a side note this really bugs me. I have a friend who has a list of things she wont try on or wear bec her DH doesnt like them. The list is ridiculous -
No shoes short than 3" heels.
Her finger nails have to be round.
No ribbed shirts. The list goes on and on and on .... Every time I hear a new one from her I just internally role my eyes and think " girl , grow a backbone!"
That would be a big NO for me. I dress for me. My husband loves what I wear becauese whatever it may be I wear it with confidence.
On a side note this really bugs me. I have a friend who has a list of things she wont try on or wear bec her DH doesnt like them. The list is ridiculous -
No shoes short than 3" heels.
Her finger nails have to be round.
No ribbed shirts. The list goes on and on and on .... Every time I hear a new one from her I just internally role my eyes and think " girl , grow a backbone!"
That's insane! If my BF thinks I look atrocious in something, I'll take it into consideration and f he hates something I own I probably not bust it out on a romantic night or something, but that doesn't mean that every time he isn't feeling something I cut it out of my wardrobe completely. If my BF thought he could make me wear 3" heels every day and nitpick down to the shape of my fingernails, he'd be delusional.
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The short answer is no. The long answer is that it somewhat depends on the person - not necessarily their gender. I trust my brother's opinion for example, and one of my exes but not another. Generally speaking, most guys I know don't get certain trends, and that's okay. I see their point even, but that doesn't stop me from wearing what I please. There are certain occassions, like intimate romantic dinners, in which I'll choose a particular dress or something more feminine partially for my partner. I guess in those times I do care. But this happens maybe once or twice every 365 days.
Here's a true story that proves how clueless men really are...I went shopping with a guy last year and tried on the Citizens of Humanity Serpent Flare jeans. He said he didn't like them on me & that they looked a lot better on the hanger. I agreed they didn't look right and we left. Well, they happened to be a size larger than I normally wear bc they were out of my size but I had decided to try them on anyway. He didn't know this. Later, I decided to order them in my size online. They arrived and fit well just as I thought. He saw me in them one day & commented how great they looked! I told him it was because these were the proper size and the ones I had tried on before weren't. He then agreed & said he thought the other pair was too TIGHT but didn't want to say anything. Ha! Silly boy. He obviously had zero clue :)
-- Edited by Vanessa at 12:09, 2007-01-25
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LoL Alliegurl & Vanessa! yes, this thread is very entertaining... and while most of us are on the same page, I think the reason I brought it up is because there are couples out there like Alligurl's friend! Maybe not to that degree, but I know one husband who doesn't like anything that borders on a junior-type trend. Everything should be classinc and "sophisticated". But sheesh- don't you just want to go to the supermarket sometimes without worrying about what to wear?
I haven't really thought about it. I generally like what I like and don't pay much attention to other people. DH is not really into clothing - so he thinks everything I wear is great