sooo, my boyfriend and I of 5.5 years just broke up last night. He can't move up to San Jose to be with me, and I can't move back to where he lives because there's no accounting jobs there. I can't keep doing a long-distance relationship (we've been doing ld since Sep 1st when i moved up here), so it's over. 5.5 years down the drain. We still love each other desperately, but it's fucking geography that's keeping us apart. It's truly done and over with. The only thing that could change that is if he moved up here. I can't move back because i'm locked into my job for at least 3 years. So, i have to start all over again. I truly thought we'd grow old together, we'd talked about it a lot before.
Anyways, sorry to be on my pity pot, I've just been crying non-stop since last night and I'm struggeling to hold it together at work...
Oh sweetie I don't even know what to say. Time. Only time will heal a broken heart. I feel so bad and wish I had magic words to make you feel better. Know you have our support here! {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}
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I'm so sorry Lindsay. If you still have my number give me a call tonight after work (or I can call you). I was in a similar situation last year - gotta love accounting.
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear this I wish there was something to say to make you feel better, but I know there's not. Hang in there and we are here for you.
I'm so sorry! I agree with Collette. There's nothing that makes it any easier but time. That and turning OFF your radio. Don't listen to it for the next three months. Trust me. There's nothing like a trip to the grocery store in the car with a sappy song on the radio to send you over the edge. (I speak from many of an experience.) Just take care of yourself and try to do new things whenever you can.
I'm so sorry. Breakups SUCK. Allow yourself to process the emotions and the grief. It's not fun but it's necessary. And as soon as you can / feel like it, (or even before you really feel like it!) do try something new. That's been most helpful to me in the past - getting involved in things that had zero memories of the old relationships. It helped me move on and focus my energies on what was ahead, rather than what was in the past. I wish you the best. *hugs*
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so now i'm confused. We talked last night and he said he'd spent all day yesterday trying to convince himself to move up. I told him that nothing would make me happier, but that I'd have to live here for 3 years. At that point I'd be willing to move elsewhere, but i couldn't move back to where we used to live. He said he has a lot of soul-searching to do... I guess that's hopeful, but i don't want to get hopeful in case i get let down. I'm still thinking of us as broken up, but i'm not as torn up about it as i was yesterday. I haven't cried yet.... I just don't want to be hopeful and have to go through all this again... i told him i still wanted him to come to thanksgiving if he thought he could get up here...
Oh, I really hope he decides to move! I don't know the details of your situation, but it sounds like you're pretty much stuck with living there for three years? Or is there another place where you could both move, as opposed to him coming to you, or you going back to where he is? I hate to see geography get in the way -- good luck and I hope it works out!
By the way, I totally agree with [b[Bluebirde about avoiding the radio. I went through a period where if a Jack Johnson song came on the radio I would go from fine to emotional freak-out.
Hey Girl, I am sorry to hear that this happened. The only thing that really helped me in that sityation was to keep busy. I know you have the new job and all but if you ever need to grab coffee or go out and dance your ass off you can pm me and we will find something to do. I live in SJ too. I don't really go out a lot but we could be kinda lost toghther!!! Feel better.