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kat


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I'm a regular poster, but I'm afraid of someone finding out my identity so I created a new account (I'll be deleting it soon and if you want to know who I am, just PM me)


I've been single for well...ever. I recently met a guy through a campus political party group and he showed up at lunch with some other friends from the group last week. We had a great conversation at lunch but I guess I didn't realize I really liked him until it was too late. I didn't ask as many questions to add to the conversation as I could have and later regretted it.


Now I have a silly obsessive crush, but I don't think it's one sided because our conversation was too good. We talked about our interest in travel, Washington DC, etc and it was just a nice conversation.


We both seem to be shy people and I'm extremely traditional. I've seen him a couple times this week and have made conversation. I don't want to scare him away but I want to show him I'm available and honestly right now I just want to get to know him better. I see him at least once a week at our meeting (political party).


Any thoughts/comments/advice?



-- Edited by kat at 13:30, 2006-02-23

-- Edited by kat at 12:25, 2006-02-25

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Hmmm. Well, since you are pretty traditional, I would say you're doing everything you can. Just keep making yourself available for conversation, and see if he asks you out?

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kat


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OK, so extremely may have been pushing it, but I am very traditional. I just don't want to chase after him or appear to be pushing myself on him because I'm not like that.



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hmmm... I think I know who this is...


maybe you should drop a hint, if it's ever appropriate, about how dating is tough or it's hard to find a good date, or something... say it in a way where you assume he's taken... it won't come off as a hint, per se, just par for the course in conversation...


really - the assumption/mind set that he's taken will give you a greater confidence too - that's always attractive.


just an idea... I'll post more if I think of anything else...



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Just initiate conversation every time its approproate when you see him and be generally pleasant.  Also, at a good opportunity, you can ask an open ended question about his plans for the evening/weekend/whatever (but in an "I'm just curious and making conversation" way, not "I'm begging for a date" way).

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since you don't want to be more aggressive, and you know you'll see him at least weekly for the time being, i say wait it out a bit and see what happens.  if, after a while, you still think he's interested but hasn't asked you out or anything, then maybe you'll need to reevaluate and figure out how to take the first step yourself.


oh, and please pm me and tell me who you are.  i can't take not knowing.



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kat


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There was an event our organization covered the other night and (we'll call him G) G. was there.


We made conversation and we had to sit close to one another and chatted when we could.


After that night, I think I may have some competition! There was another girl there and she is an absolute sweetheart - she's very traditional and nice and all. We got there early so it was me, this girl and G all just making conversation. We're even rooming together next year and she's become a good friend.


So last night, I log onto Facebook (similar to My Space) and he's left her a nice message about the event and it was nice she was there blah, blah, blah - and no message for me. So I ended up leaving him a comment instead mentioning the event and he responded back.


I'm not sure what's going on now. This other girl is nice and if it's better that they get together, so be it. I'm just waiting for things to fall into place and will see what happens.



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