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Hermione · Kate Spade

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Hermes

RE: that stupid guy, fell into the trap again

janey831 · Kate Spade

wow. what a jerk. I agree with detriot 100%. That sounds like a whole lot of drama that you dont need or deserve.

member · Hermes

I agree w/Detroit - you need to say goodbye and kick this jerk's ass to the curb. You deserve way better!

NCshopper · Hermes

Yup, sounds like he's being an ass and is playing games. I'd get rid of him.

It sounds like this is all about him and that you haven't done anything to provoke this. And I'm not saying that just to try to make you feel better or anything--it genuinely sounds like he just got weird for whatever reason.

As for how to deal with him in the future when it's unavoidable, I'd just be polite and curt. And HOT, of course.

gypsyfreak · Coach

aww, I'm so sorry.

This guy sounds like an ass. You don't need him. I wholeheartedly agree with detroit's advice. Act like he means nothing to you and don't remain friends with him. Fuck him.

Hermione · Kate Spade

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Hermes

RE: that stupid guy, fell into the trap again

Hermes

and one more thing - remove him as a myspace friend and don't look at his page... be strong, move on, heal, and don't give him a second look - you are much better than all this/his crap.

-- Edited by detroit at 17:25, 2005-11-14

gypsyfreak · Coach

indiekitten wrote:

thanks girls, i cannot tell you how much it helps me to hear reassuring words like this :) i need to hear it! and yes - actually this has motivated me to start working out and taking a little bit better care of myself. he will be sorry. haha!

Good for you! The important thing to do right now is to take care of your own needs first. Don't bother worrying about him, he's just not worth your time.

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

From everything you've said about this guy (in this post and previous posts) I have just gotten the impression he's just a total ass and using you. I think you just need to cut off all communication with him except for when absolutely necessary (for example, when you see him out in clubs and stuff. Then be civil, but don't be chummy either). He's bad news, and you don't need someone in your life who treats you like this.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

You're too good for him - he has problems!!!! I know it's hard not to give him another thought, but you will end up so much better off - let him play his little games with someone who'll put up with it!

blubirde · Chanel

Man, indiekitten, this guy sounds so defensive! He sounds like he knows he fucked up but he doesn't want to admit it, he just wants it to go away. If he would just talk about the situation with you reasonably, it would be so much better. But he can't do that. All he knows how to do is avoid and blame. It's so immature.

On that note, why waste any more precious time on him? He's an idiot and can't even carry on normal conversation, accept responsibility for situations he created, or have adult relationships. You don't deserve to have to "fix" him or make him better. He's not better. He'll never be better. You deserve SOOOO much more than that. You deserve a guy who treats you well, respects you, and cares about you. No more of this bullshit.

You know what's funny? These are the type of guys we get in relationships with but we wouldn't want as friends. Why is that? I don't know the answer but it's always that way, isn't it? You're not alone. We've all been there. He's an ass. You're not. Y'all will never be compatable because of that.

You rock indiekitten! Don't let a loser guy drag you down.

lynnie · Chanel

ugh, sorry indiekitten. i've been in very similar situations before and here is my $.02. He is not worth your time. I know guys like this. They might not be typical assholes, but they really don't care enough to worry about how you are feeling. He didn't make a list for you because honestly, he hasn't really been thinking about this as much as you. Interpret that simply as- he's not the right guy for you. I remember a guy pulled a similar stunt in hs, said he liked me so much etc. to a mutual friend (i wasn't really friends with him) and then he sleeps with someone else and doesn't ever talk to me again. I was devastated at this and still call him "the boy that ruined my life", in jest nowadays, because i spent 2.5 years pining after him. We had nothing in common and he was a typical "badboy with a sensitive side." I would never be with him now. But i cornered him one afternoon in hs and said, why can't we be friends and why are you avoiding me, and he was just like, um what are you talking about? I should have walked away then and never looked back. He was unaffected by the whole thing, and i was thinking about and crying over him every day. Waste of time and waste of tears.

Hermione · Kate Spade

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