I would go to a department store, MAC or Sephora and get it done there. They can actually give you a physical lesson. It will work much better that way than if we just tell you how.
I went to MAC and bought a smudgy black pencil and a stiff brush.. I just draw around my eye and blend.. brushing outwards with the brush. (this is what smudges it)..
Then I throw some black, and charcoal shadow on.. tons of Dior Show mascara and I'm good to go!