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Marc Jacobs

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my BF (butthead) is an attorney.  and one of my best friends is super paralegal.  what are everyone's thoughts on her working for him??


would it be weird for me?



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how big is the firm?


it would only be weird if you broke up with one of them.  weren't things on and off w/the butthead for a while? i could see that it might get sticky, but then again it might not and it could be a great thing. 



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butthead and i aren't sticky anymore.  he's behaving ;)


but it would just be butthead and friend. 


he has a paralegal now, but she isn't very good at her job.  and butthead is always, so stressed.  my friend would totally help him... 


 



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Nothing really wrong with it, but I personally wouldn't want it happening.  My worries would be


(1) that they would become too buddy buddy and would start hanging out alone together after work.  I don't like my friends to hang out with my boyfriend without me.  That's just how I am.


(2) that when we all hang out together, they are going to be laughing and joking about their office the whole time and make me feel left out.  I don't want to feel left out when hanging out with my friend and my boyfriend.


(3) if my boyfriend and I broke up, she would still work for him and I would both want to know and not want to know what he was up to at the same time.  I've been in this position before.  I simply can't resist asking the friend what is going on and then I feel bad when she tells me about a new girl he's seeing. 


(4) they will continue being friends after the break-up if you were to break up.


(5) your friend or boyfriend will put you in the middle of things if there was some sort of conflict in their working relationship.


 I think some of my concerns might come off as insecurities and you may not have the same feelings, but I just think there are millions of lawyers at millions of law firms that your friend could work for and why risk things being weird?



-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 13:44, 2005-10-05

-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 13:45, 2005-10-05

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ooh--andrea julia's points are good--i hadn't thought about the awkwardness of b-f and friend joking about office politics while all out to dinner together.  i would hate that. 


but on the flip side, it's not weird at all between me and a good g-f of mine (a paralegal) even now that things ended hideously badly with my ex (a lawyer, her boss).  she worked for him before i knew her, though, but it's pretty much the same thing.  when the breakup was newer, we had an agreement that we didn't discuss the ex.  now that i am not invested emotionally anymore and i am not on speaking terms w/the ex, we laugh about what a dork he is and it's fine.  but it never really affected my friendship with her. 



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