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ico · Dooney & Bourke

may be you girls are smarter than me....

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

Sounds like he is in yet another unhealthy relationship.

You did the right thing by moving away. Now it seems you will also have to change your phone number.

You sounds like a strong person, keep it that way and stay as far away from him as possible!

rocky · Coach

He sounds like he just wants what he can't have. He probably wants you back or wants you to want him again, he thinks you visiting NY would make it happen. Asking you about his pregnant gf was probably a move to make you jealous. That is just my take on it though.

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

agree... you left so you wouldn't have to deal with his problems, and now you are..indirectly. lol
It sounds like his life is a mess and you seem to be very strong and smart, he needs you to come and "rub that off" onto him. DON"T DO IT!!! If it was me I wouldn't even be listening to his crap, let alone going to see him and jumping into it with him. Tell him to ask his mom. Stay away!

ico · Dooney & Bourke

hey, you girls make a lot of sense, you know?

No need to change the phone#, I am very good at filtering the calls (I have done it!). I actally was planning to go to NY, but I'd stay with a girlfriend and to say anything to him (with some luck we wouldn't meet, and if we do, well, too bad!)

I think he is not missing me or wanting me back. He is missing being at the center of attention!

thanks!

blubirde · Chanel

ico wrote:

hey, you girls make a lot of sense, you know? No need to change the phone#, I am very good at filtering the calls (I have done it!). I actally was planning to go to NY, but I'd stay with a girlfriend and to say anything to him (with some luck we wouldn't meet, and if we do, well, too bad!) I think he is not missing me or wanting me back. He is missing being at the center of attention! thanks!

I think you make a lot of sense. You sound like you know very well that he's not the best person to be around. Without exception (and I mean that), every ex will always come back to test the waters at some point. I don't know why they do it but they do. Don't waste your time dealing with his crap (this is my new motto - my time is too precious to allow someone to drag me into drama). He's a weirdo and looking for trouble. He's probably looking for a way out of his current relationship and doesn't have the balls to actually do it himself. Was he like that with you? I abhor guys like that, unfortunately most of them are like that.

If you run into him in NYC, just look fabulous and be polite but don't engage. It will make him want you more but you can't help that. His loss after all!

ico · Dooney & Bourke

blubirde wrote:

Without exception (and I mean that), every ex will always come back to test the waters at some point. I don't know why they do it but they do. Don't waste your time dealing with his crap (this is my new motto - my time is too precious to allow someone to drag me into drama). He's a weirdo and looking for trouble. He's probably looking for a way out of his current relationship and doesn't have the balls to actually do it himself. Was he like that with you? I abhor guys like that, unfortunately most of them are like that.
If you run into him in NYC, just look fabulous and be polite but don't engage. It will make him want you more but you can't help that. His loss after all!

It's true, they always come back. I hadn't realized that...

Yes, he was like that with me: not able to say things upfront until forced with his back against the wall. Example: he went to Germany for 8 months, when he came back he was strange but we were still hanging out. That was end of Aug. Right before Christmas, when I really pushed him, he admitted there was a girl in Germany he was so in love with that he wanted to propose! How much of an a** is he?

ANyway, I am gonna print your motto "I am not gonna waste my time dealing with his crap" in big letters and hang it wherever I can see it. This is so right!

thanks