It wasn't even supposed to be a date! Because he's well, already married. Obviously to someone else. It was supposed to be a nice hang out dinner, while he bitched about the problems he's been having with his wife (she just moved out. As a recent divrocee, I thought we were bonding over the shared experience). OK. So it wasn't such good thinking on my part. And when he kept getting too pushy and grabby and insisting that he should take me camping alone, I told him that I was uncomfortable with a dating relationship with someone who's - ahem - married! And then he yelled. It took me 20 minutes to get him to take me home.
The thing is, he lives in my apartment complex and I will definitely run into him again. How do I act? Just be nice and pretend it never happened? Or run? (I'm leaning toward running, but he seems angry enough to take that even more personally and I don't want to deal...)
Oh, ick! Way uncool of him. He's probably not ready for any sort of relationship. My advice is not to run (tempting though it may be, and believe me, I am the Queen of Non-Confrontation). Just be very cool to him -- smile, ask him how he is, nod, say you're very busy with work, etc. Just remain aloof.
Good luck!
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I don't think you should run either. Just be civil to him, but not overly nice. You shouldn't have to be uncomfy and run in your own apartment- he is the psycho.
Sorry about all that.
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sorry.. sounds like a bad date and a bad situation. i say just ignore or be civil. no need to keep up conversation, just a passing hello should suffice.
Omg!!! He yelled at you?? That's crazy. You don't have to be civil to him or run from him or look at him. You owe him nothing. I'd pretend he didn't exist, personally. A person who exhibits their anger in hostile ways (towards me) deserves nothing from me but my total and complete disrespect. Screw him. What a loser. I'm sorry you had to go through that!
Although it'd be tempting to just ignore him, I think you're right that it's a better idea to be civil, but keep conversation to an absolute minimum.. If he started yelling at you in a restaurant, I don't want to think what he'd be like in even a slightly more private setting like an apartment building.
I agree, just be civil to him. It sounds like he's going thru a very hard time. He may just have a hard time keeping his emotions in check right now, he could feel like a complete jackhole because of the yelling.
blubirde wrote: Omg!!! He yelled at you?? That's crazy. You don't have to be civil to him or run from him or look at him. You owe him nothing. I'd pretend he didn't exist, personally. A person who exhibits their anger in hostile ways (towards me) deserves nothing from me but my total and complete disrespect. Screw him. What a loser. I'm sorry you had to go through that!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Pushy, grabby, insisting on camping with you alone, and he yelled at you? This guy is a complete jerk and sounds like someone to never be alone with. I am sure he's going through a hard time, and you were obviously just trying to be a good friend, but in my opinion his behavior is inexcusable. Being civil will probably make this as easy as possible, but civil with conversation to a minimum. Good luck!