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Metric


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I don't know what to do about my job. I don't know if anybody will have advice to help but I feel like I just need to get it out and talk to somebody.

I've been at my job a little over a year. Over the past year and a half-ish, I've waxed and waned on loving and hating it like I'm sure most people do at their job. I'm a personal/executive assistant.

In the past few months, a number of things have happened (ie see my post on the complaint about my butt) that have made me hate my company, but not my job. My job is pretty good when I can actually get down and do it. Unfortuantely I get bothered by a lot of little things that go on internally.

Recently, my boss went into a panic about layoffs and decided (without discussing it with me) to put me into another position and layoff a good coworker-friend who has 4 years more experience. I didn't think that was right ethically (she is far better at her job than I would be and its not a position you could just jump into, it needs specific training) and I didn't think that was in the best interest of the company either. It was a huge eyeopener for me as to how (for lack of a better word) disposable, he thinks I am. I decided I would rather take a layoff.

Anyway, it never came to fruition and my boss panicked and got me all worked up for nothing. But since then (and because of a few other incidents with co-workers) I just don't feel the same way about my job anymore. Since that incident things have been tense better the boss and I and unfortunately we work very closely together.

You know when you're dating a guy and he says something, it could be something totally random, but you know that as soon as he said it, you know you don't have a future together? Thats how I feel about my job. I feel sad going to work. I feel like I don't really care to put in 100%.

I've only been here a year and a half-ish, I'm afraid if I quit I'll look like a job-jumper (I was at my last job for only 8 months because it wasn't a good fit but 4 years at the job before). Plus with the bad economy its probably not wise to switch jobs at the moment. I just can't shake this sad feeling.

***See Update Below***


-- Edited by Metric on Thursday 20th of August 2009 10:08:21 PM

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From the outside looking in, I think this is something you can work through/work out. It seems from previous posts that you and he get along well - and he obviously has a lot of faith and trust in you to consider moving you to a different position versus losing you altogether. (I don't read it as disposable, I read it as valuable.)

Maybe talk to your boss to clear the air a little? Go to lunch together and ask if you can express some concerns about the layoff panic - with the attitude that you appreciate him trying to keep you employed but under those hypothetical circumstances, you felt underqualified for that position. I'm sure you can do this in a way that makes it clear you're a team player without being to critical.

Just don't throw yourself under the bus for a 'coworker-friend' and be clear that you like the job you're doing - getting the tension behind you at least with him.



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I agree with Suasoria, it sounds like he wants you around, so he tried to find a place for you so he wouldn't have to let you go. I feel you might be more bothered by how hurt your friend would be after she was let go, and how she would feel being replaced by you. Which is understandable, but it wouldn't be your fault.



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Ugh so everything has calmed down and been status quo until today. I had another incident that made me just go "arrrrgghhh!" and start re-writing me resume.

Remember our lovely anonymous email feature? I got another and it really really bothered me. For the most part I keep to myself at work and just try to get my stuff done, I'm friendly with my workmates but during my review HR said I was "too friendly" with the other staff.
Today my anon email said
It would greatly appreciated if Metric would not act and speak like she is above everyone. This has been going on for far to long now.

Like fing seriously? Its like I can't win. On one hand I'm too friendly and on the other hand I act like I'm holier-than-thou? I don't understand this, I don't think I act differently to anyone, for the most part I stick to myself and just try to get my work done.

I just seriously don't know what to do. Our HR guys eats this up- anything he can do to make me look bad, he will and these emails get sent to our president and vp.

I'm starting to look for a new job, guys. I just can't handle the psycho games and office politics, its ridiculous.


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Metric wrote:

It would greatly appreciated if Metric would not act and speak like she is above everyone. This has been going on for far to long now.

ATTN: Human Resources

RE: Irony

Metric does not act and speak LIKE she is above you. She legitimately IS above you. It would be greatly appreciated if you petty, jealous bottom feeders could stop proving yourselves to be beneath her with comments like this, and start being grown-up professionals.

And please research the difference between "to" and "too."

 



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The problem is, anywhere you go, you can and probably will end up working with at least one jerk. It sucks when it is HR, though because they are supposed to be nuetral.

I realize you may have already made your mind up to leave, but if not, I would just try to shake it off and throw yourelf into your actual job. If you keep yourself above the petty crap, you'll look and feel more professional and you'll learn to just deal with unpleasant people. You may find that you start to enjoy your job again. Sometimes its just about our own internal attitude. If you've been on the fence, and feeling blah, then you project that to others and you can start a cycle of just noticing that blah stuff. Jobs cycle around just like relationships. I've worked for the same boss for over 10 years. There have been times when it was icky for maybe several months after a particular incident, but those things can have a tendency to work themselves out over time if you stick in there. Overall, I love my boss and I'm glad I didn't let those little periods of akwardness get me down.

To me, I guess it's just about the actual job and your career. Is this something that will advance you towards your goals, or something you feel like you still could learn a lot by doing? Then stay, if not, maybe time to pack it up.

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gossipgirl wrote:

The problem is, anywhere you go, you can and probably will end up working with at least one jerk. It sucks when it is HR, though because they are supposed to be nuetral.

I realize you may have already made your mind up to leave, but if not, I would just try to shake it off and throw yourelf into your actual job. If you keep yourself above the petty crap, you'll look and feel more professional and you'll learn to just deal with unpleasant people. You may find that you start to enjoy your job again. Sometimes its just about our own internal attitude. If you've been on the fence, and feeling blah, then you project that to others and you can start a cycle of just noticing that blah stuff. Jobs cycle around just like relationships. I've worked for the same boss for over 10 years. There have been times when it was icky for maybe several months after a particular incident, but those things can have a tendency to work themselves out over time if you stick in there. Overall, I love my boss and I'm glad I didn't let those little periods of akwardness get me down.

To me, I guess it's just about the actual job and your career. Is this something that will advance you towards your goals, or something you feel like you still could learn a lot by doing? Then stay, if not, maybe time to pack it up.


I couldn't agree more with everything gg has said.  I've worked for the same bosses for 10 years too.  Some days are better than other, just like everything in life.

I would just keep doing what you are doing.  Keep your head down, do your work, be friendly but not socialize and work towards advancing your career goals. 

This idiot who wrote the anonymous comment is probably the same person who didn't like seeing you sit on the exercise ball.   Jealous idiots rarely stop at one dig, you know?  Remember to stick up for yourself when necessary but to also rise above the situation.  It will only help to shine a positive light on you.  Idiots are always found out in the end.

 



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Suasoria wrote:

 

Metric wrote:

It would greatly appreciated if Metric would not act and speak like she is above everyone. This has been going on for far to long now.

ATTN: Human Resources

RE: Irony

Metric does not act and speak LIKE she is above you. She legitimately IS above you. It would be greatly appreciated if you petty, jealous bottom feeders could stop proving yourselves to be beneath her with comments like this, and start being grown-up professionals.

And please research the difference between "to" and "too."

 

 


lol. But seriously, this person is unprofessional. She(or he)writes the comments like they are talking to their gossip lunch buddy.

I wish I could come by your office, I bet I could pick out this person within an half an hour. I have like a super power in observing personality traits/body language;)

I have to agree with GG's level headed response. Just ignore the hate and push through.

*though if you need a hot head in another state to call and prank someone I willwink

 



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This person sounds like they're attempting to intimidate by harassing you anonymously, basically threatening you in hopes of destroying your confidence at work and your reputation in the eyes of your superiors, thereby keeping you from advancing.  These emails are not worded in a way that presents any leginimate concern, and I think you should go to HR and call this by the name it deserves - HARASSMENT.  I'm sure HR knows who it is that's sent these (there's no such thing as truly anonymous emails, is there?) and IMO they should be reprimanded or fired for this truly unprofessional behavior.



-- Edited by Elle on Friday 21st of August 2009 05:31:48 PM

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Seems like they're using the anonymous emailing option to bully you and be passive aggressive. After all, if someone really had a problem, wouldn't they just talk to HR? Seems like your company is providing a way to publicly badmouth each other. If I were HR, I'd eliminate the option.

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Suasoria wrote:

 

Metric wrote:

It would greatly appreciated if Metric would not act and speak like she is above everyone. This has been going on for far to long now.

ATTN: Human Resources

RE: Irony

Metric does not act and speak LIKE she is above you. She legitimately IS above you. It would be greatly appreciated if you petty, jealous bottom feeders could stop proving yourselves to be beneath her with comments like this, and start being grown-up professionals.

And please research the difference between "to" and "too."

 



 *LOL*!!! I love you...you are hilarious!

Metric- I agree, you should just ignore the hate and do what you have to do until you can tell them to shove it. This is some juvenille nonsense!!




-- Edited by ayo on Saturday 22nd of August 2009 03:51:25 PM

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