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splash · Kenneth Cole

wait what? confusing boy..

Elle · Hermes

Honestly, it sounds like at first he was interested in you but you weren't in him. Now it sounds like he's moved on to other prospects. If you guys had been better friends before, he probably wouldn't have given up so easily. Actually, it sounds like it could have turned into a booty call situation pretty easily - like he was pretty casual with his intentions (not that it couldn't have turned into something more). You contacted him, so the ball's in his court. If you have the opportunity to hang out with him again, take it and see if you can make some progress. If that's not an option and you've found out that he's interested in someone else, it's really his decision whether or not to contact you. Hang in there!

blubirde · Chanel

yay for you for asking someone out!!!

as for the sitting closer in the dark thing, i hate to say it this way, but that's not necessarily about prolonged interest. sometimes it's just about making out in the dark, ya know? there are tons of guys i'd make out with in the dark but not hang out with in the daytime. i'm sure guys feel the same way about some girls. (i'm not saying you're that girl but just that there could be other reasons a guy scoots close to you in a dark room other than wanting to take you out on a date.)

but hopefully he likes you, too and will respond positively to your email. and if he doesn't, at least you know and move on to someone else. congrats on the asking out - it wasn't that hard was it?

Andrea Julia · Coach

I think he liked you and when you didn't show interest back, he met someone who he liked and DID show interest in him. Otherwise, maybe he is just making you wait because you made him wait (which would be immature, but acceptable I guess).

It's probably just an issue of bad timing.

-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 19:18, 2005-05-16

lynnie · Chanel

You didn't do anything wrong. In all honesty, what happened could have been anything. The other girl may be someone he's liked for some time now but just found out she liked him back. She could be a girl that put out on the first date. It's hard to say. My bf was dating a girl casually for a few months, and when I saw them holding hands once (I lived on the same floor as him.), I got soooo sad. That's when I realized how much I liked him (he liked me originally, i wasn't sure, so he moved on). So I told him I liked him- it was hard but not as hard as letting him get away. Well, he told this girl that his feelings had changed and he couldn't see her anymore. Whoa. She was like, what the hell happened? And, really, nothing had changed except that he was with the person he wanted to be with more. So, I def. wouldn't sweat it. Just keep meeting people and having fun, and you'll meet the right boy that will ditch all the other prospects for you =)