STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

joy0302 · Kate Spade

What do you all think?

blubirde · Chanel

I may be in the dissent here, but you're damn straight I'd tell my hubbie to stay away from her. I try to be really fair with SOs and understand that friendships exist with the opposite sex, but I draw the line at women that make me uncomfortable as the SO of my SO. Does that make sense?

I say trust your instincts. If this woman causes you that much grief and worry, I'd tell my SO about it and tell him I don't want him to be friends with her, if he can at all help it. (Sometimes in a work situation that's not possible.) He's YOUR husband and he owes a duty of loyalty to you above all else. There are times when we should throw fairness out the window and stick with our guts. Yours is telling you the girl is danger (and she sounds it) - so I see no problem with fighting to make sure that danger doesn't enter your world.

Hope you don't have to deal with her very often. Btw, do you think she followed your husband to the job? Maybe set her up with one of your crappy single guyfriends. That out to keep her occupied and out of your hair.

Andrea Julia · Coach

Who knows? Maybe it just so happens that the best possible opportunity for her careerwise happened to be at that exact company. Let's hope that's the case and she just leaves the 2 of you alone.

If she did follow him there, that is really scary. I know if I liked some guy and he didn't return the affection and even married someone else, I would do everything I could NOT to ever work with him. If I knew that this guy worked at a certain company, I would never apply there unless my dream job just so happened to be there. If she followed him, you are dealing with a sick woman.

Either way, I don't think your husband should talk to her at all. Because it is a work environment, he should say hi when passing by out of politeness, but that's about it. They don't work directly with one another. They have no reason to talk. She started too much trouble in the past to be a friend to him.

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Ew! I am totally with Bluebirde!

RyanJ · Coach

My BF has a job that he has to travel about 4 hours round trip to a few times a week. It is a job that he totally loves- besides being a professional soccer player I think this is his dream job, so my BF quitting his job is not an option.

There is a woman that works w/ my BF that is crazy about him. At first it was kind of funny because she would call him on his cell and flirt with him. I would jokingly call her his “Girlfriend.” I will call him up and has him how his girlfriend was doing. He would just grunt and sigh because he couldn’t stand her. Lately though it has gotten out of hand. She just wrote him this 4-page email comparing me w/ her and why she is so much better than I am. He tells me every time she calls and anything that she does because he doesn't want to cause any problems between him and I. He wants to be totally honest w/ me, so I can trust him. He use to go out to dinner and drinks with people after work, but I told him a few weeks ago that if she goes he does not go. If she shows up (because she has a habit of just "running" into him in places) then he has to leave. Unless they are at work he is not allowed to be around her. He understands this and is totally cool with it. I totally agree that you need to tell him he can’t talk to her. I understand that if is a work situation and they are forced to talk because of a job requirement. I can’t tell my BF that this woman has to totally be out of his life because that would probably jeopardize his job and I don’t want to do that. He can smile and say Hi to this women at work, but that is where no work related talk ends.

Why do women have to be such aholes to each other? I just don't get it.

splash · Kenneth Cole

I definitely agree with the others - you have every right to ask him to stay away from her as much as possible. But since it sounds like he's been great about this in the past, I'd present it as, "I'd really appreciate if you didn't talk to her, because even though I completely trust you, it makes me uncomfortable to see you together." Rather than accusatory: "you better not..."

joy0302 · Kate Spade

Thanks everyone for the input! I am glad to know that other girls agree with me. Hopefully we won't see her much and when we do I will try my best to ignore her and hope he does the same!!

fashionista L · Coach

I would definitely tell my hubby to not speak to that lady!! She has caused problems before and I am sure it is no coincidence that she just showed up! I'm sorry, what a drag!!