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Suasoria · Chanel

Fashion Truisms

Hermes

I guess for me, it's wear what you love and not to care whether it's in style or if others like it. If I love it, that's all that matters, and I always feel good wearing something I love!

TheLovelyLady71 · Hermes

Yes, I second what D said. I really don't follow trends, maybe a little, and I do mean a LITTLE. I wear what I love, and what I KNOW looks good on me! BUT! A hot/sexy/attention gettig pair of shoes always makes me feel better too! LOL

D wrote:

I guess for me, it's wear what you love and not to care whether it's in style or if others like it. If I love it, that's all that matters, and I always feel good wearing something I love!

TheLovelyLady71 · Hermes

TheLovelyLady71 wrote:

Yes, I second what D said. I really don't follow trends, maybe a little, and I do mean a LITTLE. I wear what I love, and what I KNOW looks good on me! BUT! A hot/sexy/attention-getting pair of shoes always makes me feel better too! LOL

D wrote:

I guess for me, it's wear what you love and not to care whether it's in style or if others like it. If I love it, that's all that matters, and I always feel good wearing something I love!

XtinaStyles · Marc Jacobs

Always dress as you want people to perceive you -

I always dress up a lil while others are in sweats and tees, and I feel as though I get treated better for it.

gossipgirl · Dooney & Bourke

XtinaStyles wrote:

Always dress as you want people to perceive you -

I always dress up a lil while others are in sweats and tees, and I feel as though I get treated better for it.

Love this! Me too. Regardless of "it's who you are on the inside" Others STILL judge by appearance, so you might as well look good.

Boots · Gucci

I'd rather err on the side of looking chic and classy than looking like I'm deperate for attention.

I recently spent a girls' weekend (the 1st of THREE bacholorette parties for the same wedding ashamed

) with my FSIL and her friends who all decided to tell me that night (after a long night of partying) that I need to dress sexier. Now I had on that I considered a "sexy outfit" of a black wrap top, a green cami that showed just a bit of cleavage, my favorite fitted dark jeans and some heels. I wear that on a date happily (and have!) I looked at the other women who where giving me this (unsolicited) advice. One had an extremely low cami (she popped out more than once that night), another one had on a shiny top that was too tight for the jeans she had on ( it was like a big spot light on her muffin top) and another one had on a tight and low cut mini dress that I'm pretty sure was supposed to be a tunic not a dress. Now, they did get plenty of attention (the blow up penis they kept introducing peopel to might have been a factor.)

But I thought, yeah, I'm good. Thanks.

Kelly · Hermes

Boots - ahhh I hate when people say stuff like that!

greendiamond · Marc Jacobs

That what you wear under your clothes is as important or more important than the clothes you wear. A $3 tee over a supportive and proper fitting bra trumps an ill-fitting $3 bra under an expensive top. Likewise, knowing that I am not a victim of VPL is also priceless. (This one pops to mind because I just got 2 new bras and lots of new panties in the mail today that I LOVE!)

I agree with D about wearing what you love.
And, I agree with Su about cool shoes.
Xtina, I've never articulated this thought, but I think you are right. "Always dress as you want people to perceive you" I am usually a shade more dressy than others.
Boots, it sounds like you were dressed sexy, and the other girls were 'un' dressed sexy aka bordering on trashy.

Yana · Dooney & Bourke

I used to think that we dress for others, but lately, I think it's my therapy. SInce I had a 2nd baby, I spend a lot of time at home, even the close to home errands are done in old clothes that have nothing to do with fashion. I never go to supermarkets or dry clean in track suits, but still....nothing to be noticed. However, when I have the weekend opportunity to go out - even if it's just my DH & I going to the movies spending 2 hours in the dark - I still dress up, makes me feel better about myself when I look in the mirror, when I walk out of the car...I also learnt that when you put on something you REALLY wanted & bought but is uncomfortable - it shows, I feel awkward, it looks awkward on me, so no matter what the trend is, I have to be comfortable in those clothes & shoes, just makes me feel like a woman:)
Also, the heels! Started wearing those only a few years ago - no matter what, when I'm in heels, I have a different walk, different body, attitude & a different mood!

pollyjean23 · Marc Jacobs

Dressing for how you want to be perceived by others is a slippery slope. Some days, I am too lazy to put much work into looking good, but then I feel self-conscious if I am not dressed up enough. Constantly flip-flopping on this one. Plus, when I have to go more than one place, I might feel appropriately dressed for one but not the other. hmm

Suasoria · Chanel

I detest being overdressed for an occasion, actually. I love being that ONE woman at the baby shower wearing white linen slacks and a black tank top when everyone else is in pastel sundresses. Of course I want to look good, be accessorized, and so on...but I confess I like the look of "chicly underdressed confidence."

XtinaStyles · Marc Jacobs

I am not encouraging overdressing - just was thinking about this as a friend and I were going to the movies this weekend. She was wearing a tight polo tee, some stretchy jeans and rubber flip flops. I wore a silk ruffled sleeveless blouse, some wideleg jeans and metallic leather sandals.

Although we were both dressed appropriately, I gave off a very different impression than her. She kept complimenting me and I could sense that she felt uncomfortable.

It just feels good to be put together, even when you don't have to be!

Boots · Gucci

XtinaStyles wrote:

It just feels good to be put together, even when you don't have to be!

Amen! I think looking put together is the key. I'm always more comfortable and confident in any situation if I've put some thought into the way I look. It's like you are quietly telling the world that you think you are worth it.

Elle · Hermes

I really like this conversation. I keep typing and deleting, really just agreeing with you all. So I'll just leave it at 'I really like this conversation"!

Suasoria · Chanel

Xtina, your example is great - both you and your friend were wearing jeans, a top, and casual sandals. What you each came up with is radically different.

Yana · Dooney & Bourke

I think that to get on the "best dressed list" or just look & dress with taste - not only is taste, proper accessories & proportion are included, but being appropriate for each occasion you dress for. For example, my mom has a close friends, who's considered a "fashion forward" & most stylish in their circle, she's the same lady who'd wear the same top to the beach as to the a wedding, showed up in leopard top with cheetah print skirt & leopard trimmed boots to my grandmother's funeral, of course, with heavy multicolored jewelry, similar ensemble were worn to hospital visits of friends & family....Well, it is extreme, of course...
But I think to be a little over/under dressed for any occasion is totally OK & hardly noticed, however, being too over/under dressed for special occasions, either sad or happy doesn't show much taste. I think to be tasteful is to be appropriate & also to be aware of your body, to know how to flatter it with the clothes.

P.S. I won't show in a sun dress for a baby shower as well & linen slacks, especially white sound very chic to me. I don't even own a sun dress....hm....