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Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Performance Review - Need a "better" word for Frustrated

tri_sarah_tops · Marc Jacobs

Discouraged? Disappointed?

His complaint is ridiculous.

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edit: Have you asked him for suggestions as to what he thinks would be a good word? There's really nothing wrong with frustrated....
I'd like to know what he considers to be a suitable replacement word :)

-- Edited by tri_sarah_tops on Thursday 21st of May 2009 11:06:18 AM

Boots · Gucci

What about using "discouraged" (edit- I see Tri-Sarah-Tops already suggested this, but I'd like to second it) or "blocked" or "obstructed" or "hindered" ?

I can't believe the crap you have to put up with from these people. Don't they know that jobs are getting harder to hold onto daily and they should be making themselves indispensable to you and your firm?

-- Edited by Boots on Thursday 21st of May 2009 11:01:54 AM

pollyjean23 · Marc Jacobs

Yeah, I think discouraged might be the best you can do at this point. It's a good choice because it still sounds superior enough and suggests being proactive.

Maybe it would be fun to use a word that means a similar thing as frustrated but is rarely used in everyday language-- just to annoy him. aww

Can you cluster several words together to add up to frustrated?

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Thanks guys. I like discouraged. I wanted to ask about a better word but didn't want to seem bitchy with my manager on the conference call with us and I didn't want to put the request in writing because he and his buddy always copy her on responses to try and make me look bad which doesn't work.

kenzie · Chanel

Hehe...pollyjean, I was thinking the same thing about using a rarely used synonym.

I also like tri sarah tops' idea of asking him exactly what he thinks it should be.

Discouraged sounds okay to me. These people are ridiculous. Sorry you have to put up with their crap.

-- Edited by kenzie on Thursday 21st of May 2009 12:42:39 PM

alb · Marc Jacobs

discouraged, dismayed, disappointed, dissatisfied - i think i like discouraged the best.

Kincali · Dooney & Bourke

I'm confused. This is a review from you right? How can he tell you how you feel about his work ethic? I would invite him to chat over a cup of STFU and explain to him that you are his boss.

NCshopper · Hermes

How about bothered, stymied (gets my vote!), hindered, obstructed. I would get away from a "feeling" word and move toward a concrete action. It becomes "Your coworker's progress on the project was stymied when you did not respond to them" instead of "Your coworkers felt frustrated because you did not respond to them." An employee could come up with any excuse for his coworker's frustration ranging from, "Well I can't help how my coworkers feel!," to "Well, Katie's such a bitch anyway." Keep the criticism focused on the specific action and not the feeling and you'll have a greater chance of getting through to him.

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

Thanks guys. I went with discouraged and that seemed to be good enough as he signed off on the dumb evaluation (it's electronic and they have to sign off to complete it). I like stymied but I'm sure that would have caused room for complaint as I doubt he would have understood it and would have interpreted it in a negative way. In any case, the point has been made and anyone smart enough can read between the lines and see what the complaint is against him.

But yes KinCali I did want to tell him to STFU many a times during the conference call. Luckily he had no leg to stand on but I could tell from his tone he was ignoring what my manager and I were telling him.