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Chanel

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so, the BF and i picked out my engagement ring about 6 months ago and when he gets it (or he may have already i dont know)  since people know or have found out about this i have a LOT of people ask me how much it cost... which i find really really annoying.  i just tell them that i don't know b/c BF is getting it...


that being said- i have had A LOT of people asking me how much different things i own are in general... how much are your shoes, bags, jeans, etc?  and then when i would tell them- i would get "wow i would NEVER pay that much for that... i can't believe you do that- you should put that money away in a savings account or your 401K"  ummm thanks for the advice people- i bet i put away more in retirement savings than 85% of the people who lecture me on this...


how do you respond to this?  what do you say when someone asks you how much something is and you know you are going to hear it after you tell them?  i can only use the line "I forget." so many times



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I hate when people ask that questions. It's just rude. So I typically respond with. "That's an interesting question, why do you ask" or just simply "why do you ask/want to know?"

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i just usually say, "probably too much". 


usually people stop after that.  it's a response, but it's not what they want to hear.  it's none of their business.  i hate when it happens.  i usually only ask people who i am comfortable with, and even then i will say, do you mind telling me how much that costs.  but not for something like an engagement ring.  it's a personal thing and lacks class.


i would just keep on saying that i have no idea, the bf paid for it. 



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i hate it too!


but i admit, i will ask on here - but i think that's acceptable, no?  also, really close friends i'll ask...but other than that, it's not my business.  and it's not theirs what i paid for my stuff!



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That is awful!! People are so nosy.  Just say, "You'll have to ask him."  But then if you do that, they probably will ask him.  UGGGHH!!!!  That is so classless to ask that question. 


 



-- Edited by Meow at 16:38, 2005-04-26

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While I don't have a response to your question, people do ask strange things. My grand-mother-in-law has asked on more than one occasion if my engagement/wedding ring was real, and how did I know. Besides being at the appraisal, I trust that he bought a real one. How does one respond to that? It's not like it's Hope diamond sized.


Maybe you can tell them the price isn't what's important, it's what it symbolizes. I could put someone in their place, or they may think you're sappy. But, it is a response.


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Tell them to go.........well I won't say as sometimes people provoke me to have the mouth of a trucker.Depending on what it is and the cost (if it was a bargain I love to blab for some reason)Other than that if it is something pricey I say I don't know-because ethey are usually just being nosey and just trying to guess personal info. For example w/ your ring:" hmmmmmmmmm I wonder what her BF does for a living, etc....?"If someone catches me in a bad mood sometimes I say" I don't know but it don't cost a dime to stay outta mine!"(mine being my damn business!)


Ok I think I just vented....sorry Bex



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"I don't give prices" and smile.

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I am so terrible...since I tend to buy my clothes from places none of my co-workers would frequent (Max & Co., Karen Millen), I usually quote a lower price than what I actually paid (and what I paid probably was a fraction of the MSRP since approximately 95% of my wardrobe was bought on sale or heavily discounted) and then proclaim that it took me forever to pay it off.


Wanna know what's embarrassing...when some of my coworkers know that I found my work clothes on the Anthro sale rack and point it out to everyone EXACTLY how much my clothes cost! And then point out their own Anthro work pants (and shirts and shoes) and proceed to demonstrate that the unofficial uniform for fashionable female talent agents is all Anthro all the time.



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i hate that question (well except on the board) b/c most of the people who ask it are asking b/c they want to judge you, not out of a pure desire to know. my standard response is "i can't remember" and i  leave it at that. 

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I hate when people ask that. It's one of the rudest questions! I usually just make a joke about it, but would never really answer.

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Honestly - I tell them "my mamma taught me that it's rude to ask people how much things cost." Because she really did.

That being said, I will sometimes ask really close friends, or i have to blab if I found a bargain "This? I got it for $1 at a thrift store." - but I just think it's plain rude - especially for something like an engagement ring - that is a lifetime investment & it doesn't matter what it costs, it's worth it.

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i dont usually ask for prices (hehe, I usually know how much things cost!! I'm such a shopaholic) and when people ask me, i just say, I don't remember.  There's no point in being rude to someone that just doesn't know better or is actually curious.  My friend, who had a baby at 18, ALWAYS asks me how much things cost because she thinks I am ridiculous for not spending money on "important things".  It reminds me of that lady in SATC in the baby shower episode that is appalled that Carrie's shoes were so expensive.  What I want to say is, HEY!  I didn't have a baby at 18- don't knock how I spend my hard-earned cash!!  But that's so mean.  I usually lie or say I got it on sale. 



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If someone is asking about a clothing item, and they're asking because they're interested in getting it/genuinely interested, I'll tell them (usually this is a close friend). If someone is asking so they can take the piss out of me when they decide I either a)paid to much and am too spendy bad Mia BAD MIA! or b)am cheapskate who wears cheap clothes I just tell them I can't remember. I, too, have the friend with the two small children who feels it necessary to lecture me on my irresponsible spending. I honestly think it's just sublimated aggression because she HAS to spend all her $ on her kids now.


As for ring costs - anyone who asks about that and who isn't your bestest bestest friend is a tacky freak. I am not engaged and never have been so I haven't experienced this personally but whooo I have seen some major competitive vibes amongst engaged/married friends re: who's diamond is biggest/most expensive. I actually had one friend express her desire to have the hugest rock so all our other friends would know that her husband "loves her the most." That kind of thing makes me sick.



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People are always asking me that. I am never insulted because they are usually asking because they like whatever I'm wearing and they're wondering if they could buy the same thing or not. Anyhow, a lot of my clothes comes from upscale consignment shops, so it's kinda wierd telling people that I bought it second-hand (I don't consider it second-hand, because the majority of the stuff I buy has tags on it...) so I usually say I bought it online somewhere and I forget. Unless they are really interested and I want them to know, I don't feel the need to be perfectly honest. But that's just me...

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I hate that question!! Depends on who's asking, but this one shut my Mom up last weekend:


Mom: "OOH, i love your shoes! How much were they?"


Me: "Um. Imagine what you think would be a reasonable price for them and add another zero to the end"



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Originally posted by: ILoveChoo

"I hate that question!! Depends on who's asking, but this one shut my Mom up last weekend: Mom: "OOH, i love your shoes! How much were they?" Me: "Um. Imagine what you think would be a reasonable price for them and add another zero to the end" "

hysterical!!!  i am totally using that line sometime....

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I don't care when people ask, I am proud of the deal we got, my husband is a tough negotiator with jewelers and car salesmen.  Though I know it's a little rude of someone to ask.


Why lie about clothing prices?  I don't understand this? I always answer honestly, who gives a $&^% what they think of the answer, or if they also know I don't make as much money as they do? 


My only worry is that I will tell them how much and then they will tell me that they saw the same thing on sale somewhere else.  I hate finding out I overpaid!!


About diamonds though.  I never ask, but anyone who does not do some HEAVY negotiating for any diamond is just begging to be ripped off.  It's such an emotional purchase, so jewelers know that a man is likely to pay instead of walk away.  And the market determines the price, so it changes....so maybe that's why people ask.  Because of this, it's really rude to ask. 


Maybe instead get it appraised and then you can just tell people what it is worth.



-- Edited by lorelei at 10:46, 2005-04-29

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It depends on the person.  For example, I was out at a restaurant a couple of weekends ago waiting at the bar to pick up a to go order and this girl next to me asked me how much I paid for my LV handbag and where did I get it.  She also went along to tell me that she owned several handbags such as Chanel, Dior and LV that she got from a friend that sells them and some from some off the wall boutiques.  This is going to sound bad but based on her look, expertise and vocabulary I knew she had no clue.  So I told her it was a gift.  The last thing I needed was to get mugged by this chic in the parking lot.  You have to remember I live in New Orleans.  It's not as great as it seems.


I look at it this way and also depending on the person I don't mind someone asking me where I got something if I don't know you.  If they ask how much I just say something like I got it a few weeks ago and don't remember or it was a gift.  If the person freaks me out I just tell them it was a gift.



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It depends.  If my close friends and you guys ask me, I have no problem telling you guys.  I also love telling someone when I get a GREAT deal.


However, if they are just asking me to sit in judgment of how much I spent, I usually reply, "I don't know."


I just don't feel like I should have to justify how much I spend on clothing or other things they deem frivolous or silly, and I avoid it by just not even getting into it.



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