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Lola


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OK, i may be a stalker...anyway. I noticed that Anthony (the guy i'm dating) is still adding some more chicks (in the Boston area) to his myspace.com profile since we met...he stopped for like three weeks but in the past week he has been adding more. so i just checked them out and he has been leaving them little comments...as recent as today! hmmmm...I haven't done that... I dunno, I'm so confused as to if he is into me or not. I dunno what to think! :P


I mean, we have been dating for only a month...he invites me up to stay w/ him for the whole weekend in Boston (three times now) and he calls me when he is out and he always emails me throughout the day and we talk all the time on the phone...


I'm a teensy bit hurt that he did this...I'm meeting Tony tonight, he wanted to come up to meet me for dinner before I go to Miami tomorrow. I don't know what to think. He is very up front and honest about everything and I'm contemplating just mentioning it to him, but it would totally come out as if I am a possessive woman, which I am NOT! But I like to think that I can trust the one I am with. Trust is number one in my book. Soooo do I shut up or bring it up? what to do....



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You know my answer, girl!


And I already told you my toast but I'll post it again:


Here's to the men we love, / Here's to the men who love us. / But the men we love, / Aren't the men who love us, / So screw the damn men - here's to us!


Good luck with your talk tonight! I know he'll say all the right things.



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i think you should say something about it.  just keep it light, make a joke of it so that it doesn't seem like you are being all possessive and weepy. 

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Bring it up and just ask him if you guys are dating if that means no talking or seeing other people. That you just want to know were you guys are at with that and its cool if you guys still can or not talk to others.

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Andrea Julia


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Lola, you're not a stalker!  I would notice this, too!  That's just one of the ways the internet has effected dating.  It allows you access to stuff that you wouldn't have in the past.  I was actually once going to write an article about how instant messenger/google searches/e-mail has changed the face of dating, but then...well, then I probably just had a glass of wine and watched tv instead.


Anyway...


I wouldn't say anything.  I would just make the assumption that we are not exclusive yet and go about my business as if single.  I would just stay optimistic and assume that if/when we become exclusive, he won't be doing that anymore.  If the exclusivity talk came up, and he had added new girls or posted comments about new girls within..hmm...let's say 2 weeks, I would bring it up because maybe he is the type of guy who thinks it's okay to do that type of stuff when in a relationship.  But maybe not.  Maybe he is just getting some last flirtations out of his system before making himself all yours. 


Wait-have you had the exclusivity talk yet?  Above I just made the assumption that you didn't yet.  I just reread your post and it actually doesn't indicate if you are just dating or dating exclusively. 



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JoceyBaby23


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If you haven't had the "exclusive" talk, you really shouldn't say anything. If you did, then let your feelings rip!

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Hmm, I would definitely be annoyed as well.  I was being nosey & checked out his profile & there are no comments or friends on it.  Is that some kind of myspace-snafu?


Anyway- I wouldnt mention anything until you guys have the exclusive talk.  Keep us updated.



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Originally posted by: JoceyBaby23
"If you haven't had the "exclusive" talk, you really shouldn't say anything. If you did, then let your feelings rip!"

 


I agree!



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JoceyBaby23


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lola, what happened with this? Did you mention anything to him?

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Lola


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thanks for all the comments gals! I didn't bring it up...and we didn't have the exclusivity talk yet, so I'm not letting it bother me. I'm not gonna let it bother me until, like Andria Julia said, he continues to do this after "the talk". I think we may tonight though...I kinda just don't want to bring it up though...maybe he will...I dunno, I hate this part :P 

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