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Dooney & Bourke

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is this supposed to mean:


my exexex bf (we broke up almost 5 years ago), to whom I haven't talked since and who got married last June (my sister told me, not him), just sent me the following e-mail:


33-years old without taboos. Call at mealtimes


and then his phone#


(sorry for the ugly translation, I had to translate from italian).


I didn't give him my e-mail address, and he didn't know where I work now, so he had to do a search to find it. And the e-mail was addressed to me only.


What is that supposed to mean? Am I supposed to call? I have no intention to talk to him, at all!


Help!



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bizarre. don't respond.

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Dooney & Bourke

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thanks. That's what I needed to hear...


I figured out another strange thing happened: last Tue I was at a meeting and my phone rung. I picked up and said "hallo" several times, but nobody spoke...



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Wierd!
Dont respond. He's married? His poor wife....

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Dooney & Bourke

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I don't understand. Since I wasn't replying, he sent me another e-mail, extremely long. He says something he now understands the reasons why I broke up with him, he's sorry he gave that imprinting to our relationship, he apologizes profusely...


I don't understand why he's doing this now, after about 5 years we haven't talking, and after 7 months being married!



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Chanel

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Maybe he's having issues in his marriage already.

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OMG - what a bastard! Please don't talk to him...

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it's interesting, b/c I am sitting here doing my work then from time to time checking my e-mails, and here's anotherone from him! This time he sais he's married and that he feels guilty about me...


This thing is creeping me out, now! If we weren't living that afr I'd be scared!



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If he's going to keep emailing you, maybe you should just respond quickly and to the point. Something like, "I'm sorry things aren't going well for you. Our relationship was long ago and I have no negative feelings towards you or it. I hope life treats you well." Do you think that will work?

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what a freak--i wouldn't respond at all.  i think he's trying to see if you have any feelings left for him by sending you all these messages.  if he sees that you've responded after he sends x amount of emails, he'll know what your "breaking point" is and just keep on harassing you.  I'd hit block sender so his emails get bounced back.  hth and good luck!



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I wouldn't respond at all - if you acknowledge him at all he might become relentless.  Definitely block is email addy and block his number on your phone as well.

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Dont respond. It will get too weird.

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Chanel

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Maybe if you don't respond he'll think you really are bitter towards him and keep emailing you forever.  I think you should write a quick email to him like Blubirde suggested, and then wash your hands of that.  Although, he may keep writing back to that too.  hmm   

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Dooney & Bourke

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WHat a weirdo!  and what does he feel guilty about?  thinking about you?  I feel so bad for his wife.

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Dooney & Bourke

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don't know...


I was thinking about replying something about the fact that after all this time, with an ocean between our houses and completely different people around us, it's useless to argue who's fault it was if we broke up. Come on, after 5 years, get over it. On the other side, I know he'll misunderstand whatever I write (even if I try to be as nice as possible) and accuse me to be mean. Besides, he couldn't avoid writing something about how little educated my parents are, and this kind of offends me...


May be I should really keep silent...



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keep silent. block his e-mail, block his number. you owe him nothing - just let him slither away. besides, opening the door to let him back into your life in any way, shape or form will be of absolutely no benefit to you. ignore, ignore, ignore... be strong


one more thing - I think he's looking for validation of some sort - don't give it to him by responding


 



-- Edited by detroit at 11:31, 2005-02-04

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