Why is it that I cry every time I am in my boss's office? Seriously, any time we end up having to have "a talk" (happens frequently, thanks to the fact that I do the newspaper/yearbook), I end up crying (even if I'm not getting in trouble). I can't control it! Usually it's out of frustration, but it is so embarrassing!
My boss is a very fatherly type and he's always really nice about it. But I feel so unprofessional! Anyone else have this problem? Ugh.
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I have that problem. It really helps to think about baby seals being clubbed, or your worst breakup ever, because if you're mad, you won't cry. And you'll have the adrenaline to think more clearly.
If that doesn't work, just pretend you're Barbara Walters and you're so incredibly classy and poised that your boss is intimidated by YOU and you're going to leave HIM in tears.
Halleybird, I do this too. I hate it. I hate it because it's something I deplore in other people, and yet, get me in front of an authority figure and even if I'm not in trouble, chances are I'll blub. I don't know how to stop it. I also do it when I am angry or upset - cry, I mean. There's nothing cute about a grown woman welling up - I hate the whole idea of that, for a number of different reasons, but I seem powerless to stop it.
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I am the same way! If I am before some type of authority figure, and i get frustrated, I start welling up.
I try to give myself pep talks beforehand, and sometimes, that helps.
One foolproof way of not crying is to get drunk beforehand, which I did on accident once (one too many glasses of wine at lunch on a Friday). Of course, I think that made it worse because I ended up laughing manaically.
I'm the same way, I guess I feel like somehow being questioned or talking with a supervisor is akin to being thought of less highly. I try to control it but not with very much luck.
I find if it's an imprompti thing I can keep a stiff upper lip, but if it's planned I dwell on it and make myself a basket case.
yeah, i do it too, and i absolutely hate it. it seems beyond my control sometimes, and i hate that powerless feeling. Especially since I tend to cry (or my eyes water) when I get extremely angry or upset, not just when I'm sad or in trouble. Actually, I tend to well up a little when I'm very happy or excited, as well. I don't have any advice because I can't seem to control the waterworks myself, but I know how you feel.
quote: Originally posted by: DC Shopper " Especially since I tend to cry (or my eyes water) when I get extremely angry or upset, not just when I'm sad or in trouble.
See, this is exactly what happens to me! I think my boss thought he was somehow mean to me, because he kept saying that he wasn't upset, etc. etc. But I was just really frustrated. Oh, I am so embarrassed
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Actually I can usually control the tears until after the encounter, but unless I'm wearing a turtleneck, anyone can tell I'm upset cause i basically get HIVES on my chest and neck. Ugh.
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