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I've been going out with a guy for about a month now. Nothing serious. I still date other people on a regular basis. We had this pretty awesome date last Friday night. He did some pretty thoughtful things (cut out a newspaper clipping of something he thought I'd find hilarious, which I did, loaned me a book he had on a subject I needed to know about - long story but incredibly thoughtful, etc.) and I spent the rest of the weekend in a bit of a haze. Who knew guys could be this nice? So we hung out last night. I didn't drink because I had an early meeting this morning. I realized it was the first night I've ever, EVER hung out with him where I didn't drink - and we're not talking just a glass of wine over dinner. To my utter shock and horror, I realized last night that he is a bit annoying and not altogether interesting. Still a good kisser, but even that wasn't enough to haze my brain without the mind-numbing effect of alcohol.


What do I do now? Maybe I was having an off night last night. I do enjoy drinking so maybe he can be my "when I'm in the mood to drink" guy, because he's really nice and I don't have to worry about fending him off (nice guy, remember?).


Tip for all you ladies out there: friends don't let friends date drunk! Well, not drunk exactly, but tipsy for sure.



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Haha! That reminds me of that ancient episode of "Friends" where Monica was dating Fun Bobby. She thought he had a drinking problem so she asked him to give up drinking- then sober Fun Bobby wasn't very fun anymore.


Maybe he was just having an off night? You made him sound like a really nice guy, but maybe there's just no spark?



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"Haha! That reminds me of that ancient episode of "Friends" where Monica was dating Fun Bobby. She thought he had a drinking problem so she asked him to give up drinking- then sober Fun Bobby wasn't very fun anymore. Maybe he was just having an off night? You made him sound like a really nice guy, but maybe there's just no spark?"
Too funny - I would give him another (non-alcoholic) chance though, because it did sound like it was going pretty well.

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Give him another chance if he is a good guy, yes, but it sounds like you have what my friends and I call "the ick" and once you have it, it's hard to shake.  From now on, every encounter with him might get more and more unbearable.


Oh and it might not be just because you were always drinking.  Even drinkers can notice incompatible idiosyncasies after a few dates, especially when you spend more time alone together and not "out."


Good luck shaking him, be nice.



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The ick. That's funny. Isn't that what fish get before they all die? Cool.


I'm going to give him another shot but not without alcohol this time. I tried to be responsible. It just didn't work for me. If I do have the "ick," a few glasses of wine won't hurt. (At least that's what I'll tell myself! )


But the new rule is that I can only do things with him when there are a) other activities involved or b) other people involved. It can't be just me and him sitting there talking. I'd hate to be forced to do something rash... (You know, taking shots, start talking to other men, start making out with other men, that kind of thing.)



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