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Escrime


Kate Spade

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I went on Craigslist to try to find a female friend in this area.  This woman and I have been e-mailing back and forth, and we seem to have a lot in common and a lot to talk about.  I sent her my picture, but she hasn't sent me hers.  She wants to meet this weekend for lunch in downtown Seattle, and I want to meet her, to see if we could be friends in real life.  She seems pretty cool.  I suggested that we exchange phone #s so we can chat on the phone beforehand.  She replied that she had an internet stalking experience and she tries not to give out identifying information online, which i totally understand.


The reason why I am wary is because I had a bad experience with someone misrepresenting themselves to me before, and I at least like to talk to them on the phone beforehand. 


I don't get any alarm bells in my head from her e-mails.  I know that there are legitimate people online (I met my best friend online 5 years ago).


Should I be worried that she doesn't want to talk on the phone or send a picture, or should I just go and meet her on Saturday?  It's in a public place and I would tell people where I was going and what I was doing, to play it safe.


What do you guys think?  I am really desperate to make friends out here in WA, especially with hubby gone (I didn't tell her he was gone).  I am lonely.  Am I letting my desperation override my common sense?



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Andrea Julia


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Well, I think she should at least send you a picture.  I would feel really uncomfortable going to meet someone and not even knowing what to look for.  Also, it would probably be nice to talk on the phone and know if you will have good conversation.


I would still meet her, though, if you have been happy with your e-mail conversations so far.  You can't really blame her for being worried because she had a bad experience before.  Hopefully, she will give you her phone number when you meet up for lunch.  Just meet at a public place that is familiar to you.


If she still won't give you any personal information after meeting, I would start reconsidering whether I would want to start a friendship with her.  I'm sure she just wants to see that you're not a weirdo and then she will be comfortable with you.



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How about you give her your phone #? That way she doesn't have to give you any personal information and y'all can still talk beforehand.

I wouldn't worry about it as long as you're meeting in public. Worst case scenario you don't like her and you don't talk to her anymore, right? It's not like you've invited her into your house or told her your deepest darkest. If you don't get too attached before you meet her in person, you won't lose much anyway.

I hope it all works out for you though because I know it sucks to be without girlfriends in a new town! Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

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Escrime


Kate Spade

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Per blubirde's rec, I e-mailed her my phone number and told her why I like to talk on the phone before meeting. 


I hope this pans out.  Making new friends is worse than dating sometimes!



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I think you should go meet her.  Just meet in a pupblic place where you are safe.  The worst that would probably happen is a awkward lunch, and there's a big potential for good things.  Personally, I'm awful on the phone unless I know someone.  And even then I never call just to chat, so I understand not wanting to do that. 

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Hey - I'm in Seattle and you can hang out w/ me anytime! 


I think you'll be okay.  I agree w/ what everyone else has said about meeting in a busy place.  The worst that can happen is that you don't like her as much as you thought you would.


But, seriously, I work downtown and would be happy to get together sometimes.  You can contact me thru my profile.


 



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Escrime


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Hi, lily!  Thanks.  :)  I'll take you up on that one day.  I sometimes fear meeting people from here because I am ashamed for you guys to see how generic my fashion sense is.  I am pretty boring.  but I'd love to meet sometime. 



-- Edited by Escrime at 00:13, 2005-01-19

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"Hi, lily!  Thanks.  :)  I'll take you up on that one day.  I sometimes fear meeting people from here because I am ashamed for you guys to see how generic my fashion sense is.  I am pretty boring.  but I'd love to meet sometime.  -- Edited by Escrime at 00:13, 2005-01-19"
Haha! That's so funny Escrime - I've thought the same thing. If I ever met you girls, you'd know I dress like a librarian every day! A sexy librarian but still!

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