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bri · BCBG

upset and need advice...

gruiz · Kenneth Cole

It's not for anyone else to say whether or not you should break up with your boyfriend, but to be honest, the situation doesn't sound good. You've only been together for two months, so you haven't invested too much time in this relationship. You should really think about whether you want to invest any more time with this guy. If he makes YOU feel bad about yourself, then he's unworthy of you. Especially if he makes fun of you and comments about other girl's bodies in front of you. That's just gross. It's not something you do to someone you like, much less love.

Tati · Chanel

I agree,... if its bothering you and you've tried talking to him about it and he just shines it off, thats not good. He obviously dosen't care that hes hurting your feelings and thats not good in a relationship. He sounds immature and it seems he has to act like a macho man or a certain way when hes around his friends.

blubirde · Chanel

I agree no one can tell you what to do but it is WRONG for him to be eyeing other women in front of you, esp. if he's making comments about them. Also, I, personally, wouldn't hang with a guy who let his friends make fun of me. If he doesn't have the balls to stand up to them, he's not for me. Maybe you should have an open and honest discussion with him if he's someone you really want to be around.

HTH!

Kel · Coach

I agree with the rest of the girls. You guys have only been together for 2 months and already it seems like he is not taking your feelings into consideration. What is it going to be like if you do remain together, is it going to get worse? You need to sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel about his behavior and see him he is willing to change if not move on.

bostongal · BCBG

I agree with everyone else that only you can decide what to do, but I do know this: you are not being oversensitive and he is being a very bad friend and boyfriend by making you feel that you are. If I was in your position, I think I would reevaluate whether having this person in my life was worth my time and efforts. Sorry, I know that is probably not what you want to hear... good luck and I hope everything works out regardless of what you decide...

Ally S · Kate Spade

You aren't being over sensitive and it's obvious he has some growing up to do. Talk to him and lay it all out, tell him he needs to explain to you his behavior and what he feels justifying how it hurts your feelings.

If this doesn't wise him up then you need to decide if he's worth it and go from there. How old is he? has he ever had a serious GF before?

blink · Coach

It's only been two months and he is completely disregarding your feelings. Even if you are overly-sensitive, which you are probably not, then that is who YOU are and he is trying to make you believe that YOUR nature is somehow abnormal. Don't put up with that, your hurt feelings are valid.

Yeah, I think you should break up because you don't have much time invested. If it were a longer relationship, I would suggest telling him to deal with your so-called sensitivity because it's natural to be bothered when someone, anyone, is having fun at your expense!

alb · Marc Jacobs

I didn't read all of the other posts but I basically agree w/ everyone else about this guy. He should not be making you feel that way. It is not appropriate for him to make fun of you around his roommate or anyone else for that matter and he definitely shouldn't be making comments about other girls boobs. I think that is a red flag that this guy is not worth dating. He sounds very immature and insensitive. I think you should stand your ground with him and really consider whether you want to be with this guy. You can do so much better than this guy and you owe it to yourself to find someone that will treat you with respect. Seriously, I'd rather be single than have to deal with that. You are not overreacting AT ALL.

-- Edited by alb at 09:09, 2005-01-19