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alb · Marc Jacobs

Re: my "sensitive" post below

Elle · Hermes

I don't think anyone could possibly argue that it's you, not her at this point. She is unbelievable! At least it sounds like this is just her personality - you just seem to be getting some extra nastiness tossed your way!

Ally S · Kate Spade

Boy she is a real piece of work!

While wanting to go on the trip to support your husband and the rest of is family is a kind gesture and what should happen in the real world, I'd stay the hell away from her at all costs!

Imagine the stress she'll cause you, you don't need that BS while you are pregnant or at any other time for that fact. Send a nice floral arrangement and then a card with a note to your FIL, it's his mother that died and make sure all of it is signed with both of your names.

You could subtlely add in the note how you want to join your husband but your MIL could only make arrangements for one but you were in your heart.

Take care and know it's not you, she's a cold manipulative creature.

alb · Marc Jacobs

I love that suggestion Ally!! I'm totally going to do that with the card--perfect (we already ordered a flower arrangement for the funeral). He's there now and the funeral is about to start, so maybe it's better that I'm not there having to deal with her. I'm still tired from dealing with her over Christmas!

-- Edited by alb at 13:59, 2005-01-11

scarlett · Marc Jacobs

i'm just reading this thread (and the first one) now, but man, she sounds like a nighmare of a MIL! my family is also of the mentality that as soon as someone is married, their spouse is automatically included in everything. my brother's been married for just over a year now and my mom would never dream of excluding her from any event, especially one as important as a family funeral.

i'm so sorry that you have to deal with this, especially at a sensitive time for yourself too. you haven't done anything wrong here -- the entire fault is with her and her selfish attitude. i find it astonishing that after your husband specifically told her you'd be coming she still went ahead and ignored that information. she sounds like someone who wants to be in control at all times and doesn't care who she inconveniences or upsets. and that whole "boycotting driving" thing is crazy!