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Gucci

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My bf C and I spent Christmas with his dad and wife at a resort. It was really nice and but they said some things to me over the course of the weekend that really hurt my feelings.


We were discussing things that we would like to do in the future and I started to talk about one of my passions- going to volunteer in South Africa to help build schools, teach children, etc. Its something that I feel so passionate about because my father was South African and I spent part of my childhood there. And I'm really inspired by the children and people who are so desperate to learn and read and grow. I get choked up just thinking about it.


Anyway, after describing what I'd like to do (I didn't go into any great detail, I just basically told them what I just told you), C's Dad and his wife LAUGHED at me. Then his wife made the snarky comment "when will you have time to shop?" I am so hurt and so upset. I shared something that I feel so strongly about and they just laughed me off and treated me like I'm a shallow, clueless ditz who only cares about buying shoes. I mean, I do like to shop but it is by no means my whole life. I am soo hurt and angry and frustrated.


I told C how hurt I was and he just told me that they don't know me and to ingore it (he doesn't get along with his parents 100%, especially his dad's wife). But I can't help but be mad and hold a grudge. We have been togeather for almost 6 years and they have never really made an effort to get to know me. I'm just so frustrated, but more than that I am insulted that they seem to have assumed for the past 6 years that I am a shallow, heartless loser.


 



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Sorry - they suck!  They sound like they are very selfish and self-centered for many reasons - just try to remember that there isn't anything wrong with you, they're the crazy ones!

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Well their opinion of you matters to you so show them you are more than just a ditz with a credit card. This is going to sound way cheesey but take your cue for Clueless and Legally Blonde, volunteer and do volunteer or go to South Africa or do something closer in your own backyard.


 


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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.



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They're stupid.  What did you do after they laughed at you?

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It's only human nature to be hurt after a comment like that.  My in-laws are the same way.


Remember, it's you and not them.  Anger at them takes away from your life, not theirs, so try to see if you can let it go.  I wasted a year of my life and added unneccesary stress by hating my MIL.  I could see what a jerk she was, DH could see what a jerk she was, and so did everybody else except for her.  Nothing I could do would make her change her behavior, so I finally just had to let it go. 



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I feel your pain.. they sound rude and selfish..


Youre not alone.. I havent been getting along with my inlaws either.. I may have spoken 3 words to them on christmas.



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