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RyanJ


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I have a friend that I have known four about 15 years. After we started college we just drifted apart. There was not a fight or anything we just starting losing contact. I still think of her as a friend. I just found out her 16-year-old brother died of muscular dystrophy a few weeks ago. I knew him pretty well, along with their older sister. When we were in 3-rd grade her mother died of cancer, so life has not been the greatest for her. I wanted to send her a card, but I wanted to put a little more in it then "Sorry about you loss". I just don’t know what. Or should I just put something simple. I just don’t know. I would like any suggestions. This is not something I am good with. Thanks girls.

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Elle


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I think something simple would be best.  The point of it is just to let her know that you're reaching out and thinking of her and sympathize with her loss, not bring back memories that might be painful to think of right now.  I would go with something like this:


"My deepest sympathies for your loss.  Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time."


IMO, anything more specific than that is just going to make her more emotional than she already is, and it's probably hard enough for her to keep it together.  Death is a very personal  experience and everyone handles it so differently - tread lightly as it would be easy to upset her instead of support her right now.



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lsubatgirl


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I don't know how close you two live to one another but maybe you can put something about wanting to take her to lunch or dinner and catch up with her.  Sometimes people just need someone to talk to at this time.

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My husband's father just died recently and we received about 100 sympathy cards ---they ranged from the person just signing their name to a couple of sentences to a story about his Dad or "remember when stories" to filling up both sides of the card and the back with all kinds of stuff.  He/we appreciated them all, except one which some Kooky girl he hardly knew from 9th grade sent with all kinds of religious stuff in it (she also got me on the phone for 30 minutes one night---bizzaro---alcoholic turned majorly religious!)


I think anything you write is fine and will be greatly appreciated as long as it comes from the heart.  She will love to hear from you.



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I agree with Mikacat, when my dad died 2 years ago, the cards that stuck out most in my mind were the one's that were actually heartfelt.


Say whats in your heart and let her know you care, that matters the most at a time like this.



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