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blubirde · Chanel

I feel like a boy...

exsupahero · Kate Spade

Not to be an ass or anything but maybe not have a fling like that next time?

Other than that, tell him he was just a fling and it meant nothing to you.

Mia · Kate Spade

No way, a single girl can have all the flings she wants and if buddy gets all emotional or attached, that's his problem. Maybe that sounds cold but come on, male or female, don't do, um, *stuff* with people without finding out their intentions, if what you're looking for is a big romantic relationship.

Blubirde, I'll give the advice I always give. Be nice, be sensitive, but tell him you are NOT looking for a relationship and if he continues with the lovey stuff, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. I think the key to these awkward interactions is making it seem like it's YOU, not him (even though it is him) - it just spares people's feelings, which I am generally for. Let him down easy.

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

That sucks :( What I would try to do if I were in this situation is to not go on a date w/ him, it will probably just complicate things more. Be nice, maybe even lie - maybe you are scarred by a recent ex? Maybe you still have "feelings" for an ex and he is moving too fast? (I'm awful at these things...) regardless of if you lie or tell the truth, just let him down easy and *try* to remain friends! Good luck! :)

blubirde · Chanel

So just completely avoiding the phone calls is not the mature thing to do???

exsupahero - not to be an ass or anything but please! I'm a normal, red-blooded woman and if I want to do something (within reason), I'm not going to refrain because convention tells me not to. We're all grownups here and let's be honest: women have needs, too. However if I would've known he'd have taken the whole thing so seriously, I might have had second thoughts. Hmmm... but probably not.

Good news is, I talked to my friend last night (the one who's friends with him) and she assured me things would not be weird with her no matter what. So that's a relief.

Other than that, I'll just have to use my tactful skills (ha - yeah right! - I have none of which to speak) to politely inform him I'm moving far, far away and can never see him again. Or maybe something more along the lines of what Mia suggested - I guess that is the nice thing to do.

Thanks for the advice ladies!

Ally S · Kate Spade

Whats the big deal? Tell him you aren't into a relationship with him, you had a good time but thats about all it was, a good time.

blubirde · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: Ally S
"Whats the big deal? Tell him you aren't into a relationship with him, you had a good time but thats about all it was, a good time."

Ally S, you're absolutely right!

Occasionally, however, I tend to completely obsess over the little things and worry about how to walk and chew gum at the same time. Hopefully we can all relate to such flashes of OCD?? Right?

RIGHT?

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

I, too, suffer from flashes of OCD...right now I am obsessing over the fact that my trainer has not emailed or called since his drunken call @ 3am Saturday night (well, sunday)...what did I say? what did I do wrong? he didn't even reply to a sexy email I sent yesterday!!! why has he lost interest damnit!!!! lol...

blubirde · Chanel

if he made a drunken phone call, he's still interested, fo' sure! must be embarassment. or maybe he's gone for the holidays already (i can rarely check my email at my parent's house).

hang tight - how could he respond?

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

yeah, I think he is just busy w/ work...we were going strong though. I talked to him every day on the phone since the day I left NYC two weeks ago...maybe he's just "playin' it cool" whatever, he's the one who told me of his "no games" policy...

anyway, I just got the most random email on myspace from a guy that used to be on Survivor!!! He's my "new crush"...*sigh* look at that bod! woo hoo! *whistling*

and this is my headless personal trainer...isn't that so great that I got him to take a pic of his body for my viewing pleasure! hahahahha

sigh....I gotta snap back into reality and stop eating cookies and start up on my treadmill ASAP!

-- Edited by Lola at 15:27, 2004-12-22

-- Edited by Lola at 17:08, 2004-12-22

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

btw so sorry for hijacking your thread! :)

did you talk to him again yet?

blubirde · Chanel

Damn girl! Your survivor guy is hot, hot, hot!!!! I can't see the pic of your trainer guy though - not working for some reason.

Oh and before I meant, how could he NOT respond? I forgot the most essential word!

Don't worry about hijacking my thread, I'm sick of myself already anyway. (I told him I'd call him when I got back next week but we'll see if I do...)

Let me know when you hear from trainer guy - he's probably just really embarassed, don't you think?

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

Yeah, we've been emailing b + f all day and we're gonna meet for drinks in Boston whe I go up to meet a friend in a couple of weeks... I hope it's really him and not some imposter...should be interesting at least!

do you have yahoo? maybe if you log into your yahoo account you can click back here and see my trainer? I dunno how it works...

And I emailed my trainer guy again a moment ago. I was joking around w/ him though, not bugging him, so we'll see if he responds...I know he is super busy w/ work, he trains @ equinox gym and has another business on the side and it's busy season for both...he works from 5am till 10pm, he's crazy busy, so i'll forgive him...but I can't help to think that maybe somethin' else is goin on...WHAT IS IT?!?!? My OCD is kickin' in again! lol!

Mia · Kate Spade

Lola - just a note from a former Survivor nerd: that guy was an ass and the biggest baby ever on the show (imo). Heads up, girl.

Your trainer, however...hmmm...do you think I could borrow him? Like, he could come over to my house, because I need some, uh, training? He's a hottie. Survivor guy is hot, too, I just can't get over his dumbassery on the show.

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

Mia- I never watched that season, thanks for the heads up! My friend is addicted to she show tho and tapes every episode so I'm gonna see if she still has the tapes from last year so I can do my homework! lol! I just think it's really funny that he randomly emails me through myspace...how hard up is he to get a date? lol! I'll meet him for a drink, it could make for a good story!

asf · Kate Spade

mia - is he the one who quit? the first quitter? i can't remember his name, but i think he liked to be naked...

AUChica · Nine West

Take it as a complement that he likes you, and if you do not like him... dont spend any more time fussing about it. Just tell him it was just a hook up, and go on with your life. Life is wayy too short to spend your personal time with anyone you dont really like. Just have fun and try not to break too many guys hearts... but most of all make yourself happy!

Cricket · Gucci

The survivor guy's name is Osten, right? I remember him. He did like to be naked. He was kinda wimpy. The first person ever to quit the game. I think it's funny that that's the picture he sent you. I'll be interested to hear what he's like in person, though!

Lola · Dooney & Bourke

I didn't go through w/ it, i was supposed to go up to Boston this w/e but instead my Boston friends came here, so I missed out on Osten in Boston! LOL!