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brazilian · Dooney & Bourke

If you guys did move in together into an apartment, it seems like the situation with all the animals might not work out. My BF old roommate had a ferret at their apartment. Ferrets can be very aggressive and I did not feel comfortable having our dog over there. I would be worried that if your little pup is constantly chasing your BF's ferret around, it will eventually get fed up and harm the dog.

Is it possible for you to stay the night at his place occassionally? Or vice versa?

kenzie · Chanel

I have no stellar words of wisdom for you, but I do empathize. SO and I are having similar issues. We want to move in together, but the crappy roommate he has won't move out and SO feels bad asking him to move. SO doesn't really want to move at all unless he buys a place because he hates moving. But, he's also being really unrealistic about his price range for a house and what he wants in a house, so I doubt he'll actually buy anytime soon, either. In the meantime, I shuffle back and forth between his place and mine and it's just really irritating. And financially, I'd be alot better off if we moved in together (that is not the reason for moving in together, though- just an added bonus).

And even if he wasn't being stubborn about getting a new apartment, we'd have a heck of time because of the dog- the big, black lab. Most places don't allow pets as big as her and the ones that do, he doesn't like because they're too 'cookiecutter.' OMG.

Yeah, I feel your pain.

Suasoria · Chanel

Wow, this is tough, but I don't see why you can't get everything you want...eventually. There's no harm in looking, anyway, and keeping an open mind. For example, Ferret can have a rockin' cage if you found someplace with enough space; Iguana only comes out when Ness is in the yard during the day, and so on.

I'm not sure waiting to move until he can buy a place is all that valid though, unless what he's saying is that the only option is you moving in with him.

He may also have to learn to drive one of these days if he foresees himself living in a house with a yard and a dog and so on versus an apartment in the city. If nothing else, because all this schlepping and taking care of everyone is wearing you out! Heck, it's wearing ME out just thinking about it.

littlebean · Kate Spade

I agree that there's no harm in looking and keeping an open mind. Perhaps you can find somewhere that is convenient enough to a park, or is animal-friendly, etc. Or you could set a savings goal so that in X number of months you can move somewhere a bit more expensive near the city center. I think if you both want to live together, you can find someplace that will be good for both of you, just as long as you try to be flexible and patient.

blubirde · Chanel

I agree that it never hurts to wait and see what comes along. Maybe you could get your mom to walk Ness a couple days a week (the ones where you stay with the boy) and then you can spend quality time with Ness on the other days and weekends.

It sucks but it never hurts to have a little patience, right? It's better to wait a bit and find the perfect place than to force something that will cause stress on the relationship.

halleybird · Hermes

Everyone has had good suggestions. If you think you may eventually live with him, can you consult a trainer to help you work with Ness so that she can get used to the iguana and ferret? I know a lot of dogs can peacefully coexist with other types of animals, and I bet a good trainer could help. They may not be BFF, but if you can get them to ignore each other, you'd probably feel a lot better.