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http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

Baby-faced boy Alfie Patten is father at 13

BOY dad Alfie Patten yesterday admitted he does not know how much nappies cost but said: I think its a lot.

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: I thought it would be good to have a baby.

I didnt think about how we would afford it. I dont really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.

Little family ... Alfie, Chantelle and baby Maisie

Little family ... Alfie, Chantelle and baby Maisie

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Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.

I didnt know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.

Alfie's story, broken exclusively by The Sun today has sparked a huge political storm with Tory leader David Cameron saying: "When I saw these pictures this morning, I just thought how worrying that in Britain today children are having children.

"I hope that somehow these children grow up into responsible parents but the truth is parenthood is just not something they should be thinking about right now."

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PM Gordon Brown refused to comment directly on the story but said it was important that the Government did all it could to prevent teenage pregnancies.

Alfies dad Dennis yesterday told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.

He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

And Dennis, 45, said: He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.

Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie just 12 at the time had a single night of unprotected sex.

They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.

But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelles mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

Devoted ... Alfie holds and cuddles Maisie

Devoted ... Alfie holds and cuddles Maisie

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After that Alfies family told only those closest to them for fear he would be demonised at school.

Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: Im tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.

 

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Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with really bad stomach pains. She said: Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didnt know what to do.

He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

We didnt think we would need help from our parents. You dont really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie who are both being supported by their parents would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: We know we made a mistake but I wouldnt change it now. We will be good loving parents.

I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

Ill be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.

Caring ... Alfie bottle feeds his little daughter

Caring ... Alfie bottle feeds his little daughter

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Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelles jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

Alfies dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: Everyone is telling him things and its going round in his head. It hasnt really dawned on him. He hasnt got a clue of what the baby means and cant explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. Its crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as a typical 13-year-old boy.

He said: He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United. Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was gobsmacked when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

He said: When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time hed had sex, that he didnt know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say its too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.

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Chantelles mum said: I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so its a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

Shes my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isnt working.

Today Sussex Police and the local council's children services said they have investigated the case and pledged continued support for the young parents.

Britains youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.



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I read about this last night. Totally unbelievable and he really does not look 13 especially when next to the girl.

Is the Sun a fairly reputable newspaper over there? Just curious.

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I saw this yesterday... it makes me really, really sad. I was still SUCH at little kid at 13....

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Wow. Really sad. :( Things have changed so much since I was 13, it's really depressing.

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now two boys, ages 14 and 16 I believe....., have came out saying they might be the dad.

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I love how the UK is up in arms over this story and while they have the highest teen birth rate in Europe, it's much less than the US.

"Britain had 27 births per 1,000 women aged 15-19 between 2000 and 2005, according to a report published by Population Action International. Comparable figures are 10 per 1,000 for Spain, 8 in 1,000 for France, and 5 in 1,000 for The Netherlands.

Britain's teen pregnancy rate, however, is still far below that of the United States, which registers 44 births per 1,000 women aged 15-19 and are more line with English-speaking countries such as Australia and New Zealand, which respectively have 17 and 27 births per 1,000 women between 15 and 19, according to the report."

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29184929/

On a personal note, in my early 20s I worked with a program called ParenTeen that provided parenting classes for young moms and dads. There was a pregnant eleven-year-old girl in one of the classes. I never really got to know her, partly because she always came to class with both her parents, which was extremely odd. Most girls came alone or with their partner.



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Good heavens, that's frightening. Honestly, I was still playing with my American Girl dolls at 13. I thought some boys were cute and all, but sex was the last thing on my mind.

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I am flabbergasted by this. When I was 13, all I worried about was holding hands! But, I actually dated a guy (some of you might remember Stupid) who lost his virginity when he was 12. So, I guess not much has changed?

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I am from Oklahoma and oh dear, I knew quite a few guys who had lost their virginity by age 11.  To babysitters.  Ack!  And I didn't even kiss a guy until I was 14, but if certain circumstances in my upbringing and culture had been different, I totally would have had sex by age 11 with my junior high crush.  I am just saying... hormones do crazy things and I did think about sex even when I was young, even though I was super shy with boys.

Anyway, this is a strange one.  I don't really find it "sad" though.  Anthropologically speaking, we are human, our brains and bodies are designed to have babies at pretty young ages, so it's just something that is going to happen.  Sex just happens when puberty hits, and babies happen.  Okay, so modern culture promotes finishing school first and safe sex and adoptions and somtimes terminations of pregnancy, but if there is a supportive family on both sides I don't really think this is such a terrible thing.  Certainly something that is FAR from ideal and should be discouraged, but if young teens are going to have sex anyway...and they just always are going to somewhere in every city in every culture, then what else are they supposed to do when they do accidentally get pregnant?  Before government existed, humans had babies at young ages and the whole tribes helped care for the young.  I don't think having a child at a young age should be labeled as something that ruins a life.

Now I am just laughing at Kenzie's "Stupid" recall.  hahaha, we all miss those stories.

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Now I am just laughing at Kenzie's "Stupid" recall.  hahaha, we all miss those stories.


Haha, I remember those...

I remember being 13. I knew about sex, but I wasn't interested in having it. Sure, I liked boys and I had a boyfriend... maybe I was just behind the curve, but I thought it was a big, huge deal to kiss a boy. I can't imagine being in that situation at that age.

That kid does not look 13!



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sex at 13 - I cant even comprehend, I was still playing with barbies!

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I must say, I have to applaud them for deciding against abortion and doing their best to raise their child. Honestly, none of us know how difficult it must be (unless we have been in the same position).

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